Listen this will feel a little scary and a little bad to you but if there is one thing I learned in 8+ years of community building it is that you have to offer your skills and brag about them in the same breath. Not unwarrantedly but in ways that enthusiastically allow for dialogue and exchange.
This can look like "Oh I can fix that, I have a sewing machine and I'm really good at hemming." Or "I can help you write that, I get a lot of joy in reading job descriptions and putting together cover letters based on it. It's like a puzzle!" Or "Oh man I love to cook and bake, I would love to make a dinner for you and your family and bring it over, " And even "I can take you to an appointment, I have a liscence and I can go shopping while I wait. I love to shop."
Even if these things are annoying. Even if these things take up time, and you do not get paid for them. If you want a community that flourishes within itself we must all be willing to offer something, anything, with joy and enthusiasm.
You need to have both the confidence and the warmth to show people that acts like these are not favors, they are how we support one another and how we form communities that are safe and accessible yes but also joyful for everyone involved.
As we are honest in the things we cannot do we must be honest in the things we can.
