All the recent Roe Vs Wade overturning news has finally pushed me to write about my experience.
I was pregnant last year after 2 years of trying to conceive and 1 miscarriage. The first trimester was scary, full of anxiety and lot of morning sickness but we made it through. Everyone told me the second trimester is easy breezy but I just wanted the morning sickness to get better. Around week 20 I had a level 2 scan where they found the fetus had some issues that I won't share but basically both the kidneys were already damaged and if by some miracle the fetus survived full term - would be born with sever renal damage requiring a kidney transplant right after being born and a lifetime of dialysis. There was also a very high change of other development issues be like brain, heart and lungs development.
After a heart breaking visit to multiple of doctors and receiving the same diagnosis to terminate the pregnancy - we went for it, the fetus was 20-21 weeks at the time.
There was 1 major thing though - I was in India and not the US.
India allows abortion to be performed up to 24 weeks.
India was also the first country to legalize Miscarriage leave, so I got 6 weeks paid leave from my employer to recover emotionally and physically.
If I was in the US, apart from few of the safe states I would not be allowed the abortion at all. Even with the medical diagnosis. I would have been forced to carry the fetus full term or till it would naturally die inside of me. Even worse they would force me to give birth to a fetus who would have to lead a vegetative life connected to tubes and machines with severe complications, requiring 100s of surgeries from day 1 of their life, with no guarantee of survival. Forget about the medical debt we would go under.
The conservative right cares about the life of the unborn fetus but not about the quality of life it will lead. They won't pass laws for freeing up medical debt or making healthcare accessible.