The Start of Something New
So now itās time to set the goals and to put them out there in writing for myself so that I know what Iāve committed to.Ā Iāve decided to group them into three categories: Body, Mind, Environment.
Environment:Ā Ā Step 1 was a long-overdue change of financial advisers and getting my financial house in order.Ā I set the meeting, followed through with the meeting instead of moving it (Iām a horrible procrastinator!), and now Iām following up on the loose ends that came out of the meeting. I will have two kids in college starting next month and itās past time to get my financial house in order.Ā
Mind: Iām working on wrapping my head around being an empty-nester next month.Ā I thought it was going to be easy but the closer I get the more Iām not in a good place where this is concerned.Ā I canāt really find a good adjective to describe it.Ā Iām not nervous, Iām not upset, I just know that Iām not where I thought I would be at this point in my life and I need to take steps to change that.Ā
Step 2 for me is to NOT fill my time with people who donāt further my goals.Ā That has included all of these crazy men that Iāve met doing online dating.Ā Ā So...last week I deleted my online profiles.Ā I didnāt justĀ āhideā them, I deleted them and I deleted the apps from my phone.Ā While the first few days were tough, I wonāt lie, I havenāt thought much about them the past couple of days.Ā Ā
Iām also clearing my personal calendar of anything that I felt an obligation to say yes to and spending more time at home.Ā Thatās been tough too because itās been lots of time alone as my daughter was out of town last week on vacation with her dad.Ā And even when sheās home she works a lot or spends time up in her room.Ā Again, Iām not going to lie, Iāve been watching way too much TV. So this week Iāve made some goals for things that I want to take care of in myĀ ādownā time.Ā Weeding the flower beds is job #1 and will (hopefully) be taken care of tonight.
And IāmĀ ādeletingā some people that Iāve been spending time with.Ā Like the guy I met a year ago who is funny and IāveĀ āenjoyedā spending time with except that every time weāre together heās looking over my shoulder at theĀ āhotā 20-something at the next table.Ā That certainly doesnāt make me feel better about myself and he isnāt making me a better person.Ā So...less time there.
Body:Ā Lastly for today, I got back on the wagon as far as my eating is concerned.Ā I had a shake for breakfast and packed my lunch.Ā Iām trying to not look at this as a diet but as a lifetime change that I need to make for my health.Ā Every choice is, in fact, a choice.Ā Eating fast food 10+ times a week is not a healthy habit, and itās notĀ ānormalā. Most people do not do this and I need to not do it either.
So...there you go.Ā Goals established and started in my quest to achieve them.Ā Itās Monday morning and motivation is high!