Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
✓ Live Streaming✓ Interactive Chat✓ Private Shows✓ HD Quality✓ Free Actions
Free to watch • No registration required • HD streaming
its funny when people talk about "actual predators" as if pedophiles are not in the family, people in power, your neighbor, normal regular fucking humans, everywhere, abuse is so normal and invisible and no one bats and eye or wants to do anything about it, too scared to think about it or talk about it, and the current structure of society only helps to perpetuate and normalize it.
its conceptualized as a scary figure, a bogeyman, instead of, say, someones normal-seeming brother whos silly and introverted who wouldnt hurt a fly, who truly seems normal and you wouldnt suspect anything because he seems normal... or whatever else.
yeah, for real. considering the pedophile a 'type' of person is actively unhelpful in every way, because like the category of 'abuser' or 'narcissist', it assumes that those who perpetrate harm are ontologically inclined to do so. it makes people complacent about their own ability to perpetrate harm, it makes people (including victims) avoid holding those who perpetrate harm accountable because they are otherwise well-rounded and upstanding people, and it makes people question if harm has really occurred if it was done without malicious or 'evil' intent. it's perfectly crafted, as a conspiracy / ideology, to scapegoat the weird and scrutinised, and allow those in power, those who are 'normal' in and outside their abuse, to cause and maintain harm unchecked.
it's also so sinister because the term that everyone is so comfortable using to mean 'ontologically evil predator' is such a politically loaded one. the term we use (pedophilia) comes from the study of paraphilia, a strain of sexology that overtly asserts a normative sexuality (vanilla, cisheteronormative) in opposition to sexuality that is 'sick' (including the sexualities of transfeminised people, gay people, people who engage in kink and people with partialist fetishes) that should be prevented and 'cured'. through our language, we willingly conflate the presence of sexual 'sickness' (read: deviance from vanilla cisheteronormativity) with the idea of moral degeneracy and dangerousness.
and i find a lot of (queer) people think the issue with paraphilia is that it includes things it shouldn't, and that there are indeed sexual preferences that should never be accepted, even if we should consider e.g. homosexuality normative in this day and age. but i cannot stress enough that at its core, it is still a deeply conservative belief that serves the interests of an oppressive state. if the source of crime is within sick, sinister deviants—within their sexual preferences—and not within any individual's willingness and ability to rape or abuse, we must monitor for (intrinsic) deviance in sexual preference to prevent crime. your personal life, your thoughts, your feelings, become everyone's business; your kink blog is now everyone's business, because you've given away that your sexual preferences are the inherently crime-inducing kind. those comfortable with raping and abuse, because of their misogynistic, racist, and/or anti-child beliefs, and those able to rape and abuse, because of the power they hold over individuals—both socially embedded factors—are not the focus. how communities and societies disempower children and make them vulnerable to abuse, is not the focus. instead (especially online, especially in queer circles), it is the individuals that watch cartoon porn. because what if it's evidence they like childlike features?
and—sorry, i'm still going—what if it is? what if you have pedophilic (preference) tendencies, and also poor sexual boundaries, due to abuse? god forbid you be allowed to learn how to safely navigate both, and grow as a person within a sexually diverse ecosystem; "your attraction is unacceptable and disgusting—we first must stress that—and your traumagenic understanding of sexuality that has lead to poor boundaries in the past is just further evidence as to how sinister and ontologically harmful-inducing you are. sex crimes, no matter the context, cannot be forgiven". how does this not simply isolate the person in question, or even encourage them towards spaces that may be overtly pro-rape? it's easy to fantasise about a world where all rapists are obviously evil, and then simply die, but that is not the reality we live in. people are complicated, people need community, and the idea that individuals over 18 ('whole ass adults') can, in solitary, learn healthy interpersonal skills and outlooks after having already become accustomed to manners that may be dysfunctional, is an absolute lie. this individualist bull is so deeply American it is embarrassing.
as adults that collectively hold institutional and social power in our respective countries and online, it is our collective responsibility to address the causes of and prevent child sexual abuse. it is our responsibility to challenge the material conditions that lead to child abuse—lack of sex education, social isolation, political disempowerment, preexisting abuse. it is our responsibility to accept that we are all culpable, all responsible for preventing harm and for supporting one another. it is our responsibility to cultivate spaces and communities where abuse is noticed and challenged. and it is our responsibility to not treat any individual that causes harm (and especially any individual that simply has atypical sexual preferences) as an irredeemable, evil person, thus narrowing our understanding of the causes of abuse, and enabling repeated or future perpetration.
it's tiring. and i'm too sexually abused for this. you can only hear 'those who rape children do it for their sick kicks' so many times, when your own rapists were just fucking stupid, careless, or also groomed. i don't want to speak to them ever again, and some i still think of with immense agony and rage, but i'm better than kidding myself that they did it because of something intrinsic within them, related to their kinks.
it was not my rapists' paraphilias or lack thereof that made them cause me harm. it was every other factor that we are all capable of, and all collectively responsible for. and that is good, it means we can do something, and it means there are better ways to understand harm than models historically used to dehumanise the queer. it's just that unfortunately for those whose activism is confined to the internet, none of that 'something' involves callouts or whisper campaigns that worry themselves over what gets someone's rocks off. what a loss.
Anya is live and ready to show you everything. Watch her strip, dance, and perform exclusive shows just for you. Interact in real-time and make your fantasies come true.
✓ Live Streaming✓ Interactive Chat✓ Private Shows✓ HD Quality✓ Free Actions
Free to watch • No registration required • HD streaming
