Apr 9, 2020
Every patient ever: “but I should-”
Every therapist ever: “-ahh, the shoulding...”
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Every patient ever: “but I should-”
Every therapist ever: “-ahh, the shoulding...”
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New blog post up! . What happens when you get a case of the shoulds? You know, I should do the laundry, I should do the dishes, clean the upstairs... do you should all over yourself or get out there and live? . . Full disclosure the Ice wasn’t great and I fell flat on my ass. But it was fun! . . Hearts on the ice 💕 . #shoulding #skateice #hockey #stateofhockey #mn #getoutside #live #livebecauseyoucan #yoga #bendtonotbreak https://www.instagram.com/p/B7B5OhHl_p1/?igshid=2r53wugo5yqi
The Shoulds
What happens when you get a case of the shoulds? You know, the I should do the laundry, clean, do the dishes... do you live or continue to should all over yourself?
Today I woke with a violent case of the shoulds.
I should do the laundry. I should do the dishes. I should mop the rest of the floors. I should go grocery shopping, make dinner, clean the upstairs.
The shoulds are as infiltrating as the flu and the symptoms are almost as debilitating. Lucky for me I took a yoga class from Kelsey Chorus and her wise words echoed through my body; “stop…
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Happy Fridayyyyy!!! This is my collection of #coffeemugs! It is growing! Lol These past few days have been, lets say, a wee bit challenging between the 4 of us. It's can be challenging to live with others!! Lol especially in 250 sqft! 4 different opinions, mindsets, struggles and wants!! Oh and lots of #shoulding at times! Hahaha Learning how to bring harmony to the group is important however sometimes harmony just doesn't happen and that is reality! Lol I can either not accept the reality of the crapstorm that happens and feel like crap....or I can accept what is and still feel harmony and peace ✌internally! Oh man is this challenging however it IS getting easier and easier to remain calm and composed in the crapstorm. How do you get through the #crapstorm?! Lol calmly or crazy or a little bit of both!? 😂😂😂 (at Desert View Watchtower)
Shoulding on People
Yesterday, @anti-pro-ana-ariana‘s mentions of DBT and I-statements reminded me of days in treatment when we had DBT group and how useful DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) really was for me when I was recovery focused.
My main point is to encourage others to think about how you use the words “you” and “should.” In many cases, such as in the last sentence, “you” is understood as “one” or the general intended audience, but starting a sentence with “You should...” can add pressure to an already frustrating situation when you are speaking to someone with the goal of getting them to change their behavior in mind.
“You should talk to your therapist about...”
“You should try...”
“You should want to nourish yourself.”
Instead, think about using “I” to say. “I feel like it would be beneficial to you if your therapist knew about... because...”
My ex used to should on me whenever we got into an argument about how I was doing, and it irritated me to no end sometimes because I already knew what I “should” be thinking/feeling/doing if I was not a person struggling.
This is what I remember and feel about shoulding, and I would be interested to know what others think and feel about it.
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I’ve been “Shoulding” on myself loads today
and it has put me in some type of mood. Feeling the pit-in-my-stomach kind of sadness and I”m not so sure how to move through it
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