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The Shettles Method is basically you trying to influence conception toward a specific gender using a series of methods based on the X and Y chromosomes. Claim Your 20 Free Pregnancy Tests – Click Here

Now, you typically hear some controversy surrounding the Shettles Method with credibility and morality. But I personally have used it twice and had success both times. We had a girl and we had a boy. It worked so well that I was actually scared to read too much into my chart with my third baby as we wanted a surprise gender.

So the way that the Shettles Method works is you want to set up the conception to favor either a girl or a boy based on the different characteristics of the X and Y chromosomes. For more go to here

★★Shettles Method for Gender Selection in 7 Steps★★

1.  Want a boy? Time intercourse close to ovulation According to the Shettles Method, to conceive a boy, you need to time intercourse as close to ovulation as possible. Now the reason for this is because they are so much faster than the girl sperm, it gives them a more likelihood of fertilizing the egg before the girl sperm would. So this means you would want to abstain from intercourse 4 or 5 days before ovulation which would be best for the girls.

2.  Want a boy? Deep penetration Another tip according to the Shettles Method is using deep penetration. They recommend using rear entry, or as most of us refer to it as “doggy style.” The idea behind this is that since the sperm will be deposited as close to the cervix as possible, that’s less distance traveled, which is friendly to the boy sperm, not the girl. And because it is already at the cervix, it’s in an environment where the cervical mucus is most friendly to the boy sperm, not the girl sperm. If you want to know more about this, Visit here: https://www.conceiveeasy.com/get-preg...

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So the Shettles Method is a way to try to conceive a baby of a specific sex.  There's a whole rigamarole to when you eat what and when you have sex related to your cycle and when you've ovulated... 

Sorry to burt your bubble, but this post isn't going to be about whether or not the Shettles Method works cause I have no idea.

When I hear about this kind of stuff it brings up a lot of questions about gender and sex and what we can expect our children to be like.  I think it feeds into the American (maybe other cultures too, but I can only speak for ours) sensibility that we can craft our children.  We can pick the child we want, grow it, keep it pure, teach it this way, teach it that way, train it early, increase its intelligence, widen its horizons, give it the opportunities we never had ourselves.

But the thing is, we can't.  Haven't you heard?  The whole Baby Mozart scheme is just that - a scheme.  It doesn't change babies at all or make them better in any way.

Pregnancy is the beginning of a long lesson in releasing control.  If you're not ready to release control of even what sex your baby will be, then you're not ready to be a parent.  That's okay - you don't always have to be ready to be a parent when you start, but it'll be a long, fast roller coaster ride learning how to not lose your shit.  

You can't control your childrenYou can't control who your children are going to beYou can't control what your child's sex will beYou can't control what your child's gender will beYou can't control whether your child will be healthy or notYou can't control whether your child will like the same things you doYou can't control whether your child will like YOUYou can't control whether YOU'll like your child

Almost from the beginning of his career as a specialist in obstetrics and gynecology, Dr. Shettles was confronted by parents eager to choose the sex of their children. Up until the early 1960s, Dr. Shettles did not believe there was anything he or anyone else could do to beat Mother Nature’s odds. “It looked like it was going to have to stay roughly fifty-fifty,” he recalls. Still, in part because his patients kept prodding him, he began looking for “anything that might be exploited toward this end, particularly anything related to differences in the two sperm types we then knew existed.”

The Two Sperm Types

The two types of sperm, as discussed in the preceding chapter, are the Y-bearing (boy-producing) sperm and the X-bearing (female-producing) sperm. It was known some years ago that the Y chromosome is markedly smaller than the X chromosome. Dr. Shettles hoped that this difference might be expressed in the overall head (nucleus) sizes of the two different types of sperm. This might provide a means of fairly easily identifying and perhaps of separating the two types for use in artificial insemination, and so on. Unfortunately, using standard microscopes and staining techniques, Dr. Shettles failed to discern anything that would visually distinguish the two types of sperm.

But he kept trying different approaches and, “one night,” he recalls, “I decided to examine some living sperm cells under a phase-contrast microscope.” This type of microscope, relatively new at that time, illuminates microscopic objects in startling ways, immersing them in halos of light that sometimes reveal hitherto unseen details. In expert hands, phase-contrast microscopy can produce images of greater depth, images that are closer to reality than those seen under some other microscopes. The phase scope lent an electrifying new dimension to the living sperm, which darted across the field of vision looking a little, Dr. Shettles says, “like electric eels.” He decided he could have a still better look if he could just slow down the sperm somehow. He did this by introducing a small amount of carbon dioxide gas into the fluid through which the sperm were swimming. The gas put the sperm cells into “slow motion.”

“The very moment they slowed down I could see the difference,” Dr. Shettles asserts. “There were two distinct populations. I was so excited that I ran upstairs and grabbed the first lab technician I could find. I had to show somebody what I’d found.”

Dr. Shettles promptly published his findings in the May 21, 1960, issue of the prestigious British journal Nature. On June 5, 1960, this discovery was reported in the New York Times.

Dr. Shettles continued to examine sperm specimens, and his observations continued to hold up. In most specimens he’d find more of the round-headed sperm than the larger, oval-headed type. This finding was in keeping with the established fact that far more boys than girls are conceived (various studies have shown 110 to 170 male conceptions for every 90 to 100 female conceptions) and that for every 100 female births, there are approximately 105 male births.

Occasionally Dr. Shettles would come across a semen specimen that contained sperm of unusual uniformity, being almost all of one or the other type. In cases where these were of the larger, oval shape, Dr. Shettles recalls, “I’d find men who had given birth mainly to girls.” And where the uniformity was of the other type, “I’d find men who had fathered an excessive number of boys.”

Early in his studies, Dr. Shettles encountered a specimen that contained nothing but small, round-headed sperm. The sperm donor, Dr. Shettles discovered, came from a family which, for 256 years, had produced almost nothing but male offspring. During two and a half centuries, only two girls had been born to the men in this family.

Speed Versus Staying Power

From these early studies, Dr. Shettles reached three conclusions that were to be of great importance in the development of his sex-selection theories: (1) the male-producing sperm are smaller and more compact than the female-producing variety of sperm; (2) the male-producing sperm are, therefore, very likely faster than their bulkier, female-producing counterparts; (3) the female-producing sperm, on the other hand, because of their greater bulk, probably have greater staying power.

Even though there is still a dispute over whether it is possible to visually distinguish between the two types of sperm, what is important is that others have confirmed beyond any doubt what Dr. Shettles hypothesized: that the Y-bearing, male-producing sperm are, indeed, smaller and faster than the X-bearing variety. This has been demonstrated by means other than phase-contrast microscopy, as will be discussed in more detail later in this book. Dr. Shettles and some others still believe the differences can be visualized under the phase-contrast scope, given the proper preparation and requisite expertise. But, for all practical purposes, that issue is moot. It has been rendered beside the point by other—more persuasive—confirmations of Dr. Shettles’ conclusions with respect to sperm speed and size.

By 1960 Dr. Shettles had a starting point, a place at which he could begin building his sex-selection theory. It appeared to him, as already noted, that there were far more male-producing sperm than female-producing sperm in the average ejaculate. The numerical advantage of the Y sperm, he reasoned, must be a sort of compensation for their fragility, relative to the huskier X sperm. The male, it seems, starts out life, even at the preconception stage, in a state of “inferiority,” a state that is borne out all through life and is evidenced in the fact that there are far more stillbirths and miscarriages of male children than of female, in the fact that more boys than girls die in infancy, in the fact that women have longer life spans and are more resistant to many types of disease, and so on. It is only by having a numerical advantage at the outset that the male keeps roughly even with the female.

That advantage is taxed, Dr. Shettles hypothesized, from the very beginning—when the sperm are ejaculated into the vagina during intercourse. To test this hypothesis, he placed sperm in transparent tubes filled with cervical and vaginal fluids of varying degrees of acidity and alkalinity, such as naturally exist in the female reproductive tract. He found that when the fluids were most acidic, the larger, oval-shaped sperm were able to survive longer than the smaller, round types. He also found that when the fluids were highly alkaline, it was the male-producing sperm that would most quickly swim to the opposite ends of the tubes, which he likened to “physiological racetracks.” When the secretions were more acidic, the likely “winners” were the female sperm. The acids took a toll on both types, but the toll was heaviest on the more fragile boy sperm.

Now, in the normal course of events, a woman’s secretions tend to become most alkaline as ovulation approaches—nature’s way of enhancing chances for fertilization. As you move away from ovulation in either direction, either before or after, the secretions become more acidic. Experiments showed that the female-producing sperm could not only better withstand the acids, they could also better withstand a number of forms of stress, such as heat, toxic chemicals, and so on.

The Importance of Timing

With this information in hand, it became evident that timing of intercourse relative to the time of ovulation might be the most crucial element in sex selection. Dr. Shettles theorized that intercourse that occurs at or near the time of ovulation will, more likely than not, result in male offspring. This is because the secretions in the reproductive tract of the female are most alkaline at or near ovulation and thus most favorable to the speedy Y sperm. But if the intercourse that results in conception occurs two or three days before ovulation, when the secretions are more acidic, then the chances for female offspring would be enhanced. This is because the hardy X sperm are more likely to survive in the acidic environment during the lengthy wait for the egg. This is where the X sperm’s superior “staying power” comes into play.

Dr. Shettles sifted through the scientific and medical literature to see if he could find further support for his blossoming theory. He found that some past practitioners of sex selection had made observations with respect to acidity and alkalinity. Dr. Felix Unterberger, a German researcher, had, decades earlier, in the 1930s, treated some forms of infertility with baking soda douches. He had noted that a number of his infertile female patients had extremely acidic secretions. He guessed that the acids were adversely affecting the sperm. When the women used the douches containing the alkaline baking soda, the acids were neutralized somewhat, and a number of these women became pregnant. Equally astonishing was the fact that so many boys were born to these women—far more, Dr. Unterberger and others reported, than would have been expected by chance. Some other doctors followed up on the German researcher’s work with similar results.* Even Emperor Hirohito of Japan is said to have employed an alkaline douche in his successful quest for a male heir.

Dr. Shettles found neither truly adequate confirmation nor refutation of Dr. Unterberger’s work in the literature. Unterberger’s theory had enjoyed a brief popularity and then had faded away for lack of rigorous scientific follow-up by other doctors, most of whom seemed to find the notion of alkaline douches beneath their dignity. Nonetheless, the data from the 1930s was intriguing and certainly tended to support Dr. Shettles’ own developing ideas about sex selection. He doubted that alkaline douches alone would produce boys with any great reliability. Timing appeared to him to be a far more important component, but douching might be a potentially useful adjunct to timing.

Dr. Shettles also found numerous references, dating back to the nineteenth century, to the alleged influence female orgasm can exert on sex selection. Some researchers have claimed that when a woman has an orgasm during intercourse and, especially, when she has her orgasm before that of the man, the chances for having a boy are increased. If there was any truth to this persistent claim, Dr. Shettles decided, it might have to do with the fact that female orgasm makes the secretions somewhat more alkaline.

Even the Talmud, compiled centuries ago, notes a connection between female orgasm and the sex of offspring. “The determination of sex takes place at the moment of cohabitation,” the Talmud declares. “When the woman emits her semen before the man [when she has orgasm first], the child will be a boy. Otherwise it will be a girl.” The man, if he wanted a boy, was directed therefore to “hold back” until after his wife had an orgasm.

This was interesting in and of itself, meshing as it did with the reports of researchers in more recent times. But Dr. Shettles found another directive in the Talmud that was equally or even more interesting. Orthodox Jews were instructed not to engage in sexual intercourse during a woman’s “unclean” period, meaning during her menstrual period; nor should they have intercourse for a full week thereafter, declared the Talmud. Orthodox Jewish authorities Dr. Shettles consulted confirmed that many Jewish couples abstain from intercourse for the first two weeks of the cycle; thus the first intercourse of each cycle would occur at or near the time of ovulation for most of these women. Taking this into account and considering the less important but still noteworthy directive on female orgasm (which might be expected to increase alkalinity), Dr. Shettles wondered if he hadn’t found the reason why Orthodox Jews have a disproportionate number of male offspring, as has been reported for decades.

Of still greater importance to Dr. Shettles was the data on artificial insemination. It seemed clear to Dr. Shettles that if his theory was valid, then artificial insemination should produce significantly more boys than girls. The reason for this is that artificial insemination is usually timed to coincide as closely as possible with ovulation, so as to maximize the chances of conception occurring. (Artificial insemination can be costly and somewhat traumatizing to some women; thus doctors try to achieve pregnancy via artificial insemination with as few attempts as possible.) Prior to any artificial insemination, the conscientious doctor does everything he can to pinpoint as closely as possible the woman’s ovulation time.

The procedure for begetting male offspring is somewhat easier than the method for female offspring. You will recall that the intercourse that coincides as closely as possible with ovulation will be the most likely to yield sons. This has been shown to be the case in numerous studies involving both artificial insemination and natural insemination.

We don’t pretend to know all the possible reasons why more sons result, given this timing, but it has been established that the boy-producing sperm are smaller and, under ideal conditions, are capable of swimming faster than female-producing sperm. Since the cervical secretions are most ideal at or near the time of ovulation, Dr. Shettles has long held that intercourse at that time should favor the male-producing sperm, which can use their greater speed to get to the egg first.

Even if intercourse takes place several hours before ovulation occurs, but within a day of it, the secretions still will be most conducive to Y-sperm penetration, permitting many of the boy producers to get into the fallopian tube to await the arrival of the egg. Some girl producers will arrive there, too, but the Y sperm should, for several hours at least, maintain a numerical superiority in the fertilizing zone. For the boy, then, you want to time intercourse for the day of ovulation.

We have discussed how to determine your time of ovulation. That has to be your first and most important order of business. You will probably have to go through several cycles before you feel confident that you can tell when you are ovulating. If you have been on birth-control pills, you will want to wait at least six months after discontinuing them before trying to conceive a child of either sex. It has been shown, in numerous studies, that women who conceive within a few months of discontinuing the Pill are far more likely than other women to suffer miscarriages and other complications of pregnancy. Besides, once you’ve been on the Pill and have discontinued it, you will need time to get your cycle back to normal.

If you have been using an IUD, there is not the same danger, though Dr. Shettles and some others recommend that women wait a few months after removal of IUDs before attempting to conceive, just to make sure everything is back to normal. Contraceptive foams and jellies should not be used by couples who want to conceive boys. These substances are highly acidic and could thus be expected to most adversely affect the smaller, less hardy, male-producing sperm. And, in fact, studies have shown that pregnancies that result from failures of these methods of birth control yield a greater than expected number of girls.

The form of birth control that should be used during your practice sessions is the condom. This will not interfere with the acidity/alkalinity of the female reproductive tract and, in addition, will enable the woman to observe and test her cervical secretions on a daily basis, as outlined in the preceding chapter, without confusing seminal fluid with CM.

We recommend charting the CM as your first and best means of finding ovulation time. Remember that you may show a pattern of peak symptoms on two days in a row, rather than just one. That’s one of the reasons why you should go through several practice cycles—so you won’t “jump the gun.” Even if you show a highly regular pattern, we suggest going through three cycles so that you can proceed with greater confidence. If your cycle turns out to be irregular, ultimately you may have to do a lot of cross-checking, using both CM and BBT.

We recommend that the BBT method be used in conjunction with the CM method. BBT will provide additional and, we hope, confirming information. If there is a conflict, place a higher trust in your CM readings unless you have some particular difficulty in interpreting them. If you are lucky enough to experience clear-cut Mittelschmerz, you can use that, as well, to help you pinpoint your ovulation time.

In previous books, where we have recommended primary reliance on BBT, Dr. Shettles has noted that, in the average woman, ovulation occurs somewhere between the dip in temperature and the sustained rise. If a woman took her temperature one morning and, from experience with previous charts, knew that by the next morning her temperature would be sharply up, then Dr. Shettles would recommend that intercourse be timed for that evening—about halfway between the dip and the top of the rise. If the woman was not sure that she had recorded her dip, then Dr. Shettles would recommend that she wait until the following morning (when the dip followed by the sharp rise would be evident) to have intercourse with the objective of conceiving a boy. The same recommendations still hold.

To repeat, if you are using BBT alone, intercourse for the boy should occur either on the day the dip is observed—if you are confident that this is the dip—or on the following morning, after the dip has been confirmed and the rise observed. In either case, you will be having intercourse during a twenty-four-hour period that we believe marks the day of ovulation. If you are confident that your morning temperature marks your dip, then intercourse later in the day would be ideal, rather than waiting until the next morning. The ovulation kits we discussed in the preceding chapter may also be helpful for those with consistently irregular cycles. (See discussion later in this chapter.)

Of course, we don’t recommend that BBT be used alone. CM will give you more up-to-the-minute information. What we suggest is that you take your BBT before you get up each morning; then check your CM after each urination throughout the day (and even during the night if you get up to urinate). You will soon begin to notice correlations between the BBT and CM that will be very helpful to you in assessing the status of your cycle at any given time. You may find, for example, that at the point you record your last low temperature, you are very near ovulation (as indicated by the CM) and that you will have maximal chances of conceiving a boy if you have intercourse that morning rather than wait until the following morning. On the other hand, your CM readings may tell you that you still have plenty of time after that last low reading.

Your best chances of conceiving a boy are in the twelve hours before ovulation occurs. But you still have significantly higher chances of conceiving a boy than a girl when intercourse occurs within twenty-four hours before ovulation.

Let’s consider two cases, based on a composite of actual patients, to help clear up any ambiguities.

SALLY

Sally has been charting her cycle for three months now. She is happy to discover that her cycle is highly regular. Each has been twenty-nine days long. She is confident that she can determine her time of ovulation, and she and her husband feel they are now ready to try for a boy. Here’s what they experience.

In her fourth cycle, the one in which they plan to make their actual sex-selection attempt, Sally ceases bleeding on the sixth day. On the seventh, she begins charting her BBT and CM. Her temperature follows a pattern much like it has in the past. So does her CM, which first shows up on day 10. The CM gradually becomes thinner and more copious until, on day 15, it peaks: It is as thin, clear, and stretchable as it ever will be. It has the consistency and appearance of raw egg white. At the same time, on the morning of day 15 of the cycle, Sally notes that her temperature, which has drifted slightly downward for the past few days, looks like it has reached its characteristic low point—the last dip before the rise. She is sure that by the morning of day 16 her temperature will be sharply up—at least half a degree. That is what has happened in each of her previously charted cycles.

Does she tell her husband to call his office and inform the boss he’ll be a little late this morning? No. Another woman—with another pattern—might, but Sally knows from her previous charting that it is highly likely that her peak CM symptoms will persist all the way until the next morning. So she waits, wanting to get as close to the actual moment of ovulation as possible. When she takes her BBT the next morning she finds that, just as expected, her temperature has risen markedly. With some considerable excitement and a little anxiety, she quickly checks her CM. With relief she notes that, as in cycles past, it is still at its peak. She also knows, though, from past experience, that it won’t remain this way much longer.

Sally tells her husband that ovulation is at hand. Now he can call his office. It’s time to try for the boy without further delay.

MARIA

Maria is not quite so lucky as Sally. She has charted four cycles, and each has been a different length, ranging between twenty-seven and thirty-two days. Moreover, the most likely day of ovulation within each cycle, she and her husband have concluded, has been different. Nonetheless, they do feel that, looking back, they can tell just about when ovulation occurred in each cycle. Maria’s charts are all biphasic, that is, they show the normal temperature shift. The trouble is, since the temperature shift occurred at a different time in each cycle charted so far, this shift cannot, in and of itself, enable Maria and her husband to predict the time of ovulation in any individual cycle. They know when it happened—but only after it happened.

Still, they feel they are ready to make an attempt for the boy in the fifth cycle. The reason for their confidence is the fact that Maria’s CM readings have shown changes consistent with the BBT temperature shifts. This correlation gives them the confidence they need to proceed.

Here’s what happens in the fifth cycle.

Maria stops bleeding on the fifth day. She has two dry days and then the CM appears. The CM has shown up on different days in each cycle, but once it starts it persists, getting thinner and wetter with each day up to the time of probable ovulation. There is always one day, in each cycle Maria has noted, on which the CM symptoms are more “peak” than on any other day. And looking back at the BBT charts for the previous practice cycles, Maria and her husband began to notice that those peak CM days occurred on the days of the last low temperature. This is what makes them feel that they have indeed found a way to determine ovulation time, despite Maria’s considerable irregularity.

If you decide to use one of the ovulation-prediction kits (see discussion in the previous chapter) to help you with your timing for a boy, here’s what we suggest:

First of all, if your cycles are regular or fairly regular but you simply want more assurance that you have pretty well pinned down your probable ovulation time, then by all means use one of these kits, if you don’t mind the extra expense. Given a fairly regular cycle, you may want to use the kit during just one of your practice cycles.

You could, for example, start testing four days before your other calculations have, in previous test cycles, indicated that you would probably ovulate. For the first few days you might test just once a day—either between 11 A.M. and 3 P.M. or in the evening. On the day before you think you will ovulate you might test twice—once at around noon and again at around 10 P.M. If you pick up the LH surge while testing on this day, then your estimate of your ovulation time has probably been accurate: Ovulation will most likely occur on the following day.

What you should do then, however, is continue to test the following day, as well. Keep testing until the results indicate you are no longer in the LH phase. This will tell you that ovulation has occurred, though not precisely when it occurred. By this procedure, you should be able to gain valuable additional information about your cycle.

If you have consistently irregular cycles so unpredictable that the CM and BBT methods haven’t worked for you, then you are even more likely to want to try one of these kits. Again, you may be able to relate the results to CM and BBT observations and finally make some sense of them. Or you may end up deciding just to use the kits and “go for it,” as one of our readers wrote she and her husband did (with success in that case).

Once again, we don’t recommend using the kits as your sole means of determining ovulation time because, as discussed earlier, these tests are not fail-safe. Still, it is somewhat easier to use them when trying for a boy. And if you decide you must rely on them solely, here’s what we suggest you do:

First of all, test twice a day without fail. Read the instructions in your test kit very carefully so you know how to interpret the results properly. When the test strip changes color, indicating that the LH surge has begun, you want to be sure that it really has just recently begun (within a few hours). Again, test between 11 A.M. and 3 P.M. and then between 5 P.M. and 10 P.M. Space the two tests apart by at least eight hours. Noon and 10 P.M. would be ideal testing times.

Let’s say that when you test during the midday period, you get negative results—that is, there is no indication of the surge. Then you test again, in the evening, let’s say at 8 P.M. This time there is a positive result—the LH surge is under way. You can assume that the surge actually occurred at least five or six hours earlier (since it is not detected in the urine until several hours after it actually occurs in the blood) and that, in most instances, ovulation will occur about thirty hours after the surge hits the blood. Thus, ovulation in this case is likely to occur about twenty-four hours after this test—in other words, at about 8 P.M. the following evening.

Our recommendation in a case like this is for the couple to have unprotected intercourse sometime between the following morning—about twelve hours before the suspected time of ovulation—and early evening. If you can split the difference and have intercourse around midday, so much the better.