#self-parenting

Anaparental: referring to a monopersonal/unipersonal family, wherefore a familial nucleus/entity consists of one person only. 

Similar to unparental and soloparental, but this could be also autoparental (self-parenting). Reminder this is socioaffective/socioaffectional/socioaffectionate not biological.

Anglophones uses more -parenting than -parental(ity)/-parenthood apparently, I’m leaving here some keywords: anaparenting, uniparenting, autoparenting, unparenting/nonparenting, soloparenting, monoparenting, solopersonal, autopersonal, socioparenting, socioparental.

IE, things your parents should have done with you and that you should do for your kids. Also, wherever practical, survivors of childhood abuse and neglect can give themselves these kinds of nurturance if they were missing in childhood.

Verbal nurturance:

eager participation in conversation

generous amounts of praise and positive feedback

willingness to entertain all questions

teaching

reading stories

providing resources for ongoing verbal development

Spiritual nurturance:

seeing and reflecting back to the child his or her essential good and loving nature

engendering experiences of joy, fun, and love to maintain child’s sense that life is a gift

spiritual or philosophical guidance to help child integrate painful aspects of life

nurturing child’s creative self-expression

frequent exposure to nature

Emotional nurturance:

welcoming and valuing of full emotional expression

modeling nonabusive expression of emotions

teaching safe ways to release anger that don’t hurt self or others

love, warmth, tenderness, compassion

honoring tears as a way of releasing hurt

being a safe refuge

humor (that is not at the expense of others)

Physical nurturance:

healthy diet and sleep schedule

teaching habits of grooming, discipline, and responsibility

helping child develop hobbies, outside interests, and own sense of personal style

My childhood was spent reading escapist books until the early hours of the morning (once logging 1k+ minutes of reading in one week), hardly playing outside or with kids my own age outside of school. And also museums, which I loved and am grateful for.

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In the months prior to turning 30 this year, I bleached my hair platinum then followed it with a lovely plum purple, only to chop it all off into a pixie.

I got a tattoo (to celebrate our first year of marriage).

I got my first non-lobe piercing (for migraines).

I'm also playing video games (so I can better coach our college team).

I've experimented with recreational drugs (micro-dosing for anxiety; under the supervision of an experienced user who was raised around pharmacists and well-educated in drug interactions and dosing).

I came out to my mother as queer (I'm married to a cis-het dude and spent most of my life in denial about my attraction to non-dudes).

Things I never could have considered in my youth.