Hey, you!

Yes, you reading this!

How are you feeling right now? Be honest with yourself for this one, ok? I hope you are feeling fantastic, however it is ok if you're not.

Do you read this while on a break? While in bed? While procrastinating? On the train or toilet? Either way:

Take a moment to reflect on your current (mental) health.

It is ok if you're not giving 100% because you are not feeling your best. Be it because you are sick (I feel you), be it because things have been tough. It doesn't matter. Just be honest with yourself and remember your OWN LIMITS. You are only human and it is ok to not give it your all, all of the time.

Drink some water, tea, coffee, heck drink some booze if that's what you need! Talk to a friend, scream into the void or turn off your phone. Play some video games or take nap. Go for a walk, a jog, power yourself out or take a long ass bubble bath.

YOU DESERVE TO REST.

Listen to your body and do something that makes you feel good!!!

YOU ARE AMAZING EVEN IF YOU CAN'T SEE IT YOURSELF RIGHT NOW

This PSA has been brought to you by a sick law student on strong medication who can't do shit at the moment and has to accept it for once.

Self Care Monday Post~

The idea of self care to many has seem to have caught on as a selfish endeaver when in fact, by helping yourself, you help others.

It is odd when one really thinks about it, is it really selfish? Are they saying it is better to focus on everyone else around us and help them with their needs but not our own? Eventually, due to lack of self care, it is inevitable that we will fall apart and therefore not be able to help those around us at all because we are human. We all have needs, and if we first don’t pay attention to our own, how will we ever be able to help others?

Take care of your precious heart so that it can continue to share it’s own kind of love and care to those around you.

Now, many people think self care mainly involves “a day for yourself” and/or a “spa day inside” and according to many of my friends when I approached with the topic, but what they don’t and many others don’t realize is that these are one time shots of self care, they are only temperary, and are an attempt to forget everything going on at that moment in life or to avoid problems which the next day are going to have to be solved either way. These ideas aren’t bad ideas every once in a while but they should not be your main techniques to self care.

Self care is about loving who you are today and taking care of you because you should love who you are. To love yourself truly lets you love someone else in a whole new way. To love your flaws and imperfections means to truly accept others for who they are.

Self care is NOT trying to pretend everything is okay! Self care means letting yourself feel the way you are going to feel and not pretend to feel differently. It’s respecting yourself enough to listen to your own heart and make sure your feelings are heard, just like you may do for your friends. Self care should be treating yourself like your precious best friend that no other person could ever get as close as, like the love of your life you had been waiting for to say that you are amazing just the way you are. Self care is loving yourself enough to respect your own needs and wants.

Self care is something that should be implemented everyday! Because you are always important silly! And let’s face it, we all have lives, things to do, and self care is something that also requires effort just like every other task. But this task gives back, a lot, in the moment and in the long run.

So, with lots of research and surfing many resources I’ve found quite a few small ways and techniques to use along with every day life habits one may already have to implement self care:

Create a tumblr self care blog :3

What better way to start then at home? On Tumblr! Search “self care” and you’ll be surprised to see the number of blogs dedicated to self care for themselves as well as everyone else. Finding posts that make you feel better as a person is important because it also means you’ve found someone else who understands you, and that is especially important with self care. Not to mention the motivational quotes and inspiration from other people’s endeavors.

Create tumblr blog for self care

Follow other Self Care Tumblrs

Find Self Care quotes, tips, stories, etc. and post them

Look back on your blog whenever needing some self care

Create a board on Pinterest built on positives~

This is actually how I started :P I was a pinaholic before tumblr and I had realized, why not use my addictive pinning habits to help build something that may help me. The board though should be built upon inspirational quotes, things that motivate you to be beautiful you and don’t put u down but also should not make you feel like you aren’t good enough the way you are. Of course you could be better, everyone could be, but this is where you are and this board should be about being happy to be the you that is here and now :) This image actually came from my pinterest board built on positivity xP

Be around those people who make you happy to be alive

Or at least pay those people a visit often. Shows you care about them too and that will create a closer and healthier bond

Having a support group is so essential to self care. Be with those you like you or even love you for who you are. Some will say they do but do they really? One way to tell that maybe it’s best no to hang out with them as often is if they complain consistently about things you do, or if they use their “love” or affections to get things out of you or as bribery to do something or be a certain way that isn’t natural for you. Basically someone who genuiely doesn’t make you feel good to be you shouldn’t be a primary hang out buddy.

Let yourself feel

One of the biggest mistakes is not letting yourself feel whatever you are feeling for fear of how it’ll affect others or that it is “wrong.” Now you don’t HAVE to act upon these emotions, but at least admit to yourself that you have them. No one else NEEDS to know that you have them as much as you do. Love yourself enough to respect that you have feelings.

Speak up for what you believe is right

Even in the small places like school, work, home, out at the store, walking down the street, etc. You have a voice, a brain, and ideas and beliefs that should be shared because they are yours! Don’t deprive yourself.

Standing up for what you believe is right is also vital to loving yourself because it is respecting your own beliefs! Putting what you find important up front and standing up for it will make you feel sooo much better. Some people aren’t worth sharing these ideas with because they are closed minded but if you feel in your heart that you could make a difference then speak up. You’d be surprised how much confidence you’ll gain and how much more people will respect your beliefs. Not only that but you believe what you believe for a reason, speaking up allows you to figure out why you believe what you believe even more than you think and it attracts people with the same ideas to you :)

Start with saying no to things you don’t believe are right to do

Not just agreeing with whatever your friends say is right and wrong

Not just doing whatever everyone tells you to do, question and speak up

When seeing someone being picked on especially for something you feel strongly about, speak up

When your input could change how someone sees something drastically because they truly didn’t see the whole picture

Watch that show that makes you laugh like crazy

Laughing does wonders for the brain and increases your mood overall by reducing loads of stress.

I LOVE watching Romance comdies (rom coms) especially with korean dramas~

Take a break every once in a while (once every 2 days minimum) and watch an episode

During studying, after 1hr of studies watch one episode

At night before going to bed, watch an episode

When waking up before school or work or a rough day starts, put watching an episode into your morning routine

Create a journal of one of these:

Things you love about yourself

Things you are grateful for in your life

Memories that make you happy

Thoughts you have during the day with quotes that relate & describe them