How To Understand This
You can’t tell “Don’t!” to depressed people because they won’t listen to you. They only listen to everyone who understands their life. Their pain. So, if you do understand you won’t say “don't” because you will do the same thing; If you were me.
How to understand them?
Listen to them. Let them tell you everything, even it bores you. One day, when you are a good listener, you’ll figure out how listening stories will give you so many impacts.
Back to the topic, when depressed people has issues or problems they can’t solved—and yes, they are surrender—please just don’t tell them to not doing that quickly.
They are doing that because they are hopeless. You are the light they need. If you say “Don’t!” it’s gonna like click the fire. They’ll burned the hell up. What you need to do is talk to them. Let them cry, spit every issues out from their head, and then you can say that what they do is wrong.
It’s like they are ready to burn but you rain them down so slowly till it gone. Maybe it is just repetition. Maybe it is just shit opinion. I am not the expert. I am telling from what I’ve experienced before. I’m not the one who can say, “I’m strong!” to myself, but I can show everyone I’m fine.
I know it is a big lie, but it has to be done. So, many people are right: when someone gets problem find closest friend to talk to.
But one thing you all should: not everyone will tell the closest friend—because they don’t know how to tell. It’s you guys, to start caring and looking around you.
And again, if you think it is a shit opinion, please don’t read and leave it alone.
