#saviour complex

headcanon: sunstone's tears vaporize the second they touch her flame

and then they hug

no worries, it's absolutely no pressure - i love talking about this! and thank you so much, i'm so glad that you enjoy my stuff, so let's get right into it.

a saviour complex is defined as "an attitude and demeanour in which a person believes they are responsible for assisting other people." this doesn't mean that people with saviour complexes are necessarily stuck up and believe that they are noble for doing what they do, it just means that they feel like they must help other people. it can stem from feelings like "if i can't, nobody can!" or, alternatively, "i have no worth if i don't help people, this is what i'm meant to do." in helping other people at the expense of the self, it can help the person with the complex feel valued, wanted, loved, and as if they have a purpose.

as someone who does have a saviour complex (and is working on it in therapy, so i'm doing fine - it's much better than it used to be), i can say in past experiences, this has led me to become a sort of mentor figure to other people in my life. although i will never regret becoming an older sibling figure for the people i care about, the reason why i became a "teacher" was rooted in both my own desire to help other people, and also in my need to be validated.

so basically, it all comes down to this - if i don't help other people, i have no value, so therefore, i am useless. this can quickly spiral into suicidal tendencies and should be stopped as soon as possible, but that's a different topic.

the reason why i hc ratio with a saviour complex is because i see a lot of my own behaviours in him. he became an educator to push people to their limits but also because he cares about humanity. being a teacher means bearing responsibility - the same responsibility that someone with a saviour complex will put on themselves. a person with a saviour complex will always place the needs of others over themselves, (choosing humanity over the gaze of an aeon). he seems to also be a perfectionist and berates himself for being unable to meet a standard (which can also reflect into relationships, where a person with a saviour complex will beat themselves up for being unable to help the person they were attempting to 'save'.)

upon failure of being able to help someone or solve their problems, i find that usually what i've seen is that people fall into spirals of depression and self-deprecation, blaming themselves for the issues of others. we don't know how dr ratio canonically feels about failing about 97% of his classes even though he calls them idiots, but he seems to genuinely care about his students and their education. so i like to believe that on some level, just like i used to, he blames himself when people cannot progress. that's not canon though. just a hc.

anyway, taking on massive amounts of responsibility (trying to cure the entire universe of idiocy) and attempting to further help other people through any means possible, even to the point of neglecting yourself (and although ratio says that a relaxation-working life must be balanced, i used to be a hypocrite about that so he can be a hypocrite about it too) and pushing yourself far past what you must.

anyway, i hope this clears up why i hc him with a saviour complex (from someone that unfortunately has one).

i also ask that people don't say 'are you okay?' if you read this post, because i am! you are absolutely allowed to ask me about my experience as a person who has a saviour complex (as long as you're not rude about it) and i will definitely drop more specific hcs about saviour complex ratio if you want to see more.

INAMORATO

'I'm not looking for suggestions from you, Johnny,' Daniel confesses calmly.

Then what the hell are you doing, sitting on my sofa in my apartent, LaRusso?' Johnny probes. He empties the bottle.

Daniel sighs. 'I'm here in person as a recruiter-'

'Quit the riddles -'

'I'm here to recruit you, Johnny,' he blurts.

Johnny scoffs, rolling his eyes. 'Yeah, right. For one, you hate my guts and two, I haven't kicked ass in thirty odd years - actually that's a lie if you count the bar fights, at the supermarket, the precinct with an arrest -'

Daniel's eyes are wide. 'An arrest?' He waves his hands dismissively, shaking his head in disbelief, 'actually, you know what, I don't think I want to know.' He sighs prolongedly. 'It's just like riding a bike-'

'Riding a bike is nothing like karate, LaRusso,' Johnny counters.

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John Kreese, an infamous face in the Valley. Arch enemies Daniel LaRusso and Johnny Lawrence reluctantly join forces to take down Kreese. A passion for revenge primarily fuels their partnership, until shared passion becomes entangled with lust and desire; for one another.

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Sis, first of all, you weren't in love. You were deluded. Many of us are unaware of how they project their traumas on others and how it affects their perspective on life. You were craving a certain feeling, you wanted to feel 'loved' and then you mistook attention for love. Because you were looking for what you wanted to see, not the reality. Either you were in love with the idea of the potential of how he can 'change for you' if you tried your best. Or you were blatantly ignoring the red flags because you were afraid to be alone. Your attachment issues made it so difficult for you to realise that you are addicted to someone, the way they leave you on edge, wanting more of their attention, waiting for their text to better your mood. You didn't want to let go of whatever bread crumbs they were feeding you. Just because you're afraid to be alone.

How the other person needed therapy is a point we ain't gonna discuss now, but many sisters Don't understand that they too need to resolve their traumas. Healing makes you see the other person for who they are. You don't paint them into someone else through the lens of your unhealthy coping mechanism. Healing makes you understand your own emotions for what they are. Attraction, infatuation, attachment or love. Once you heal, you'll find yourself embarrassed at your past choices. And this is why working on yourself in solitude is so very important. Learn about pattern recognition. You're not ready to sacrifice your all because you're in love with someone.... you're doing this hard work because you've Savior complex 'I can save him' ,' I can make him better' 'I need to be there for him' 'I cannot leave him he'll die' etc etc... Honey, you're not a therapist. You're tolerating rubbish just because you have this urge to 'save' people. You find yourself guilty for not helping people because you're a people pleaser. You're attracted to emotionally unavailable men because you have daddy issues. "I'll love him even if we're apart, even if the world ends or he marries someone else" ... That's because you're so attached to your grief of losing a loved one that you cannot picture your life, your individuality without the presence of that certain pain. And sometimes, you do find good people. Someone worthy of being a life partner but you start doubting if it's all a lie... because you have abandonment issues. Someone being 'nice' which in reality is basic humanity makes you feel indebted and burdened so you start to run away from that person. And keep crying over that separation.

So many examples we can mention here. But you know what, all this requires just one thing. HEALING. Learn about your own emotions. Regulate them. So you don't name any trauma as love. It ain't love always.