Hi! I had a question about Gentiles celebrating/commemorating Hannukah. I really like the song "Light One Candle" by Peter Paul & Mary and I make a point to listen to it at least once during Hannukah. Is that okay, or is it appropriative?
Hey there!
So the quick answer to your question is, that’s totally fine. Here’s the longer answer:
Appropriation would be stuff like lighting the candles and saying the blessings. Dreidels might be appropriative; my concern would be more with the fact that they can be difficult to find in stores and if you buy a set that’s a set a Jew can’t get hold of, but others’ mileage may vary. Gelt is literally just chocolate coins so like . . . there’s no monopoly on chocolate coins. Go wild. Try to wait to buy the ones modeled after Israeli money until near the end of Chanukkah, but like, there are others that are literally sold for Christmas stockings and they’re everywhere.
Moving on!
Appreciation would be learning the story, listening to the music (as you do), perhaps visiting some kind of Chanukkah display in your town if there is one. You might also choose to eat fried foods in solidarity. Latkes are basically fancy hashbrowns (listen, other Jews, don’t @ me I’m not wrong), but we also eat fried donuts called sufiganiyot, and while brisket is the traditional Jewish meat of choice during Chanukkah I am all about fried chicken. You may also choose to take this opportunity to do charity work; Light One Candle includes the verse “light one candle for those who are suffering pain we learned so long ago,” but it is far from the only Chanukkah song to note that there are others who are wanting and oppressed right now (the first that comes to my mind is The Latke Song by Debbie Friedman: “We must remember those who have so little/We must help them, we must be the ones to feed”). Some great ways to appreciate the meaning of Chanukkah without being appropriative would be to write letters to prisoners, donate money and rarely-donated items to food banks and shelters, or--even though this is mixing holidays and is usually frowned upon--picking up one of those little Angel Tree tickets to provide for a child who’s in need.
Advocacy would be pestering your town and local library for a Chanukkah display and Chanukkah activities, calling a local synagogue and asking if they need someone to stand by while they light the lights or have a special prayer service, or donating to a Jewish project or charity.
TL;dr: you’re just fine, cupcake, here are some more ideas for things you can do.


















