#safe keep

entitlement

exploitativeness

denial and minimization

claimed loss of control

claimed provocation

grooming or seasoning

positive public image

objectification

sowing divisions within the family

confusion of love and abuse

threats and imposition of secrecy

manipulation

discrediting of disclosures

lack of mental health diagnosis

high recidivism and resistance to change

"It has been common for professionals to assume that the batterer’s problem is his anger, and that the incest perpetrator’s problem is his deviant sexual attraction to children. These are common misconceptions that lead to the overlooking of the key dynamics, which are that these abusers choose to take certain kinds of action, and that these choices are based on deeply-held beliefs and habits that support exploitation."

"An incest perpetrators may lay the groundwork for years as well; he works to build a special relationship with the intended victim, and strives to gradually break down her or his boundaries with slowly escalating invasiveness. The victim is often his “favorite,” to whom he gives particular kindness and attention, but often also particular harshness and control."

"Such an assessment is necessary even if the batterer does not use high levels of physical violence; in fact, two studies (Truesdell et. al., 1986, and Herman, 1981) mention the tendency of batterers who perpetrate incest to use low levels of physical violence towards the mother. The literature on incest perpetrators indicates that the best predictors of which batterers will sexually offend against their children are the batterer’s level of manipulativeness, entitlement, or self-centeredness; his history of expecting and requiring that the child meet his needs; and past behaviors of his that introduce a sexual or romantic element to his relationship with the child (Bancroft, 1996, and the various sources listed below on sexual offenders). Substance abuse is also positively correlated with sexual abuse."

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Her keys jingled in her pocket as Atsuko quickly jogged to the cafe. She had forgotten them at home and had to rush back and get them, so she was now trying to get to the cafe before opening time. Hopefully, she could get there before the first customer showed up and set up the store properly.

She came to a stop in front of the quaint restaurant and stood there for a moment, catching her breath. With clumsy hands, Atsuko unlocked the front door and closed it just as quickly. She ran to the back to change into her uniform, and since it was a cute Japanese-themed cafe, it was a light pink maid uniform, complete with long white socks, frilly white apron, and matching pink high heels. It was a little too short for her liking, and she got attention from men she didn't want while she was working. The only upside was that she got tipped more because of it. 

Stocking the tables with cutlery and napkins as quickly as she could, Atsuko remembered the new set of tea cups were stacked away on one of the high shelves. The owner had ordered it a week ago and it had arrived last night, so he expected Atsuko to get it from where it was placed and take them all out of the package. She made sure the fresh cakes were in the display window out front, flipped the front sign to say 'OPEN' and dragged a chair over to the shelf behind the counter.