#rules addendum

light reblog karma

calling it 'light' because i'm not incredibly strict on it. but i do note if certain blogs seem to only be using me for meme sourcing and never for actual interaction.

noting I hold myself to the same standard. if i've found a meme from you I try to send something in to your blog, even if it's not that exact meme. nobody's perfect, it's more the effort that counts to me.

everybody's been there so i won't over-explain why it's discouraging to feel like a meme source, it just is.

so just a few things:

please rb it from the source blog, of course. not directly from me. i understand mistakes.

please consider sending a meme in to me if i'm where you found it? I understand not all memes suit the situation or muse voice, that's fine. I don't expect it every time. Not like it even has to be the same meme you used. i'm not strict about this.

note: i do have a meme resource blog ( @cabinetofmemes ) if you'd prefer to just rb from there. I wouldn't expect rb karma from my resource blog.

Again, I get it. Can't always expect karma all the time and people have other rp's and stuff to do. But i have to try to change something.

Master/Padawan (and Master/Former-Padawan) ships make me extremely uncomfortable, and not only will I not write them, I will not engage with them in any way. This is because of the familial bond between a Jedi Master and their Padawan, and the parental nature that is included in being a Padawan’s Master (which is why even after a Padawan has been Knighted, I still am uncomfortable with them being shipped with their former Master). As well as this being something that I’m not comfortable with ooc, it’s something that Siri icly would not be okay with, again because of the type of relationship that Jedi Masters have with their Padawans. It’s familial, there’s a huge power imbalance, and it’s a bond that’s sacred to her. I’ve in the past gotten a couple anons asking about Siri’s opinion on it, and while I could link you to those posts, the takeaway is that if Siri was aware of any romantic ship like that, she would want that Jedi Master expelled from the Order. 

The main thing here is that I ask that you please not imply or be assuming any such relationship while writing threads with me, and know that I will drop threads if a romantic Master/Padawan ship becomes implied. 

While I will happily engage with threads where your muse is assumed to be in a relationship with someone else (common examples include, if I’m writing with Ferus and it’s assumed that Ferus and Roan are married; if I’m writing with Obi-Wan and it’s assumed that Obi-Wan and Satine are together; if I’m writing with Padmé and it’s assumed that Padmé and Anakin are together... you get it, yeah?) I will not engage in threads where a Master/Padawan ship is assumed. Again, this is not at anyone specifically, but the examples that comes up on my dash most often are obi/kin, qui/obi, ani/soka or obi/ani/dala. If you’re multiship and a Master/Padawan ship is just one of your ships and you’re perfectly fine with not having it be in the verses that anything you write with me, then you do you, this isn’t a judgment. (If you could tag it so it can be caught by my blacklist that would be ideal, but as this is a comfort preference and not a trigger, I won’t require that it’s tagged; if you’re willing to tag it for me but don’t want to use a general tag so no personals find it, please feel free to let me know what your tag will be and I’ll add that to my blacklist.) But if a Master/Padawan ship is a main ship for you where you’ll feel limited or untrue to your portrayal by not having it carry over into things you write with me, then you may want to unfollow and softblock me, and that’s fine too, no hard feelings. 

I’m really sorry if this makes anyone feel uncomfortable, I’ve just been seeing a lot more of this on my dash than I’m comfortable with, and I don’t want to get into a situation where I’m dropping threads because of implied romantic Master/Padawan ship, and then thread partners are confused or unhappy or feeling ignored because of it, and feeling like I never expressed this, since it has been over a year since this I’ve mentioned this on my blog. 

boundary. No, you are not allowed to interrogate me about other RP Partners. (I won't gossip). I do not navigate 'friend groups'. So please don't ask that of me.

updated 5/2/26

Reasons for DM'ing about problems.

Has to do with RP

If you think I am vaguing you or another real person in an OOC post of mine. (I try extremely hard never to do this. But as a show of good will, I'm saying, please if it feels like I'm singling anyone out, lmk. I don't count pointing out rp trends as vaguing btw.)

If you'd like something tagged with "cw" or "tw" of some type. Be reasonable.

For anything that concerns me + you. Privately. Civily. If you escalate to insulting/cursing, I'm out.

OOC Chatter that is not unpleasant and confrontational. I'm not going to respond to things that add to stress.

You Don't Have the right to DM me or pop into my Comments or DM's OOC about:

How I'm seeing/feeling things wrong.

To tone-patrol me (in concern to my personal/opinion posts. This is invalidating)

How my hc's are flawed.

To point out facts to me like I wouldn't know. (This mentally depletes me and drains me. I am asking you not to do it to me. Think of the word "mansplaining". It exists for a reason. Even if you're not a man, when you explain things to someone who already knows something it is fucking exhausting. )

If your gripe has to do with fiction, fandom , or media creators I have no control over as if I've wronged all of them?

If your gripe has to do with me venting about the aro-ace experience, mental health, or anything that you yourself are not a part of. (again "cw vent" and "cw opinions")

Overall has to do with monitoring and controlling my ooc presence. Please just unfollow if this is going to be ball and chain.

If it's been like 2 weeks and i haven't replied to something and you think tumblr might've eaten a notification, it's fine to ask if I saw it. Bc i know that does happen. i can never guarantee speed of my replies. but i can usually guarantee if i saw the reply it IS in my drafts.

like i say in my rules, at the end of each week, if interactions/threads are just dash crack or non-story driven i tend to clear things to keep the drafts from getting too cluttered with small things that'll slow down working on the plot-driven stuff. it's proven to be a good method. and if partners want something casual to turn into a full rp, they just let me know.

if there's ever anything you WANT me to hang on to so we can develop it into a bigger RP, lmk! i can always go back and find anything you want me to pick back up, too. things are never officially 'gone.' so there's no deadline on these things.

i like to specify these things on rules pages but then, y'know. people prefer brevity too... so i just figure i bring it up in posts like this.

Please if there is an issue OOC, DM me personally. One on one, in private. We will discuss it civilly.

My Anon is not open for discussing issues this way. I do not know who it is on the other side of an anon and will simply count it as an anon hate, troll, or impersonator. Too much chaos happens when you trust anon. I don't even read ooc anons. On some blogs it won't even be available.

If this feature is abused, you will simply be blocked.

I’ve been meaning to talk out my head canon for a while now but never got around to just putting this up.

First and foremost if you are portraying May and this head canon of mine does not jive with your portrayal, please let me know and I will adjust accordingly. I have no intention of pushing a sexual relationship, past or present, implied or written out, on ANYONE. This is my personal head canon based on my interpretation and experience. Yours may differ. You do not owe me any explanation as to why you might feel otherwise, if that’s the case. If we plot/have a thread and you have not made your head canon for May clear, I will ask. 

I want to be respectful of interpretations even when they differ from mine. I DO expect the same respect given to me. So, because of the context, I will differ to the May I am plotting/threading with. But DO NOT show up in my inbox/messages to tell me how my head canon is wrong. You will be blocked. (There is a difference between disagreeing with a view point and being an asshole.)

Bottom Line: Happy will ALWAYS operate from a place of being attracted to/in love with May Parker. I will never expect this to be requited. That is his default. The sexual relationship I feel the movies imply will NEVER be unless okayed by the person playing May. 

According to the MCU wiki timeline Happy and May started their flirtation on the 26th of June 2024. They then “broke up” on the 10th of July 2024.

Happy declares “I’m in love with Spider-man’s aunt!” on the 2nd of July 2024.

May declares it a “summer fling” and at no point uses the term “just friends” to Peter when confronted. Clearly Happy is incredibly invested in their connection where as May was just having fun. She seemed open to the idea of continuing it and told Peter that Happy really has issues with boundaries. (Tony also mentions this in Iron Man 2, I think?) Happy immediately confirms this with barging back in at the odd noise of Peter and MJ coming through Peter’s window.

May mouths something to Happy after he tells Peter “We broke up” and I’m horrible at lip reading so someone please tell me what that was.

In my head canon their relationship consisted of Happy hanging around her office and volunteering to obviously be close to May, having lunch, going out to a few dinners, staying in for a few movies and having sex. 

Based on May’s flirtations and blowing him a kiss after he talks to Peter, based on the fact that a week went by and Happy’s “in love” and crying at the idea of “breaking up”, and based on the fact May calls it a “fling”, that’s my main conclusion. They were having sex, which May considered a fun hang and Happy considered a relationship.