#rp issues

It's not the first time I come across muses who are openly described as "French" in their description. I'm honestly always abashed to see that it's always because of the same reasons: seducing muses wearing fancy clothes, straddling in the streets with little dogs, using little nicknames like "chéri, darling, mon chou", drinking wines and of course... problematic, malicious and so on. We almost miss the bread under the arm at this point, or the hat and the marinière.

I appreciate people who wants to understand better my culture, but every time I see this, I'm honestly feeling very insulted and it pisses me off. My culture and nationality shouldn't be used to describe clichés or behaviors regarding a character, because it's simply a lack of knowledge in our ways and mores. Those people might believe it's flattering to create someone who's a lethal weapon and based on a nationality, but in the end, they are just using all the clichés about my culture that increase the fact they don't understand the slightest of who we are, how we work, what are our ways.

If you wish to create such a dangerous character of seduction, why using a nationality without making researches or reading articles about it in the first place? It's so problematic to spread those clichés, because in the end those people only show such an outdated and wrong SO WRONG side of my culture. I'm more than just a woman who crosses her legs and drinks wine while plotting against someone to trick them. We are way more than that.

Perhaps it’s the patch drought... perhaps it’s just a desire to try again? The recent writing I’ve been doing? Not sure... but  maybe I should post a LFRP and try again? I just don’t know... I’m struggling with the feelings of if I’m comfortable with it and if I can trust people enough to do so. *SIGH*

Do:

Respect the fact that your RP partner has a life outside of RP. Work, family, friends, children, medical issues, school, or even just other hobbies/TV shows/other games. Respect any of it. If you don’t, they’ll likely become stressed, annoyed, or burnt out.

Show that you appreciate them. You can do this by: sending them messages, expressing your excitement about your story with them, share ideas with them, or even just flat out tell them.

Respect their boundaries. Some people don’t like to discuss OOC things with their RP partners. This doesn’t mean they don’t like you as a person or that they don’t want to be friends within the RP world. They just might be a private person.

Send them prompts/memes/asks that they reblog. It shows that you’re invested in the story and learning more about their character and it helps keep the RP going even in little ways. Just because you RP with them regularly doesn’t mean you can’t send them things on tumblr.

Communicate! This is something that we see talked about a lot but it’s surprising how often it isn’t really done.  If you have a problem with how something is going, tell them. If you feel like something is wrong, ask them! It doesn’t do either person any good if things aren’t talked about.

If your partner comes to you with something they feel is wrong or they have a question, ect. Be honest!

Don’t:

Harbor resentment about something until you blow up on your partner.

Do something or push for something that they have already told you that they are not comfortable with.

Try to change their character.

Discourage them from RPing with others.

Guilt them for not RPing with you.

Take them for granted.

Keep them as a “trophy” once you have them and then rarely RP with them after that, stringing them along.

Lie to them. About anything.