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Hi lovely :)

I’ve been offline for awhile, so I’m not sure which post you are referring to, but I will try to answer your question.

So people can have different ‘attitudes’ towards romance, regardless of orientation. One might be romance adverse, which means you don’t want to participate in romance; romance neutral, which means you don’t have any strong feelings about whether or not you want to participate in romance; or romance favourable, meaning you would like to participate in romance.

You may be wondering, “How could someone be romance favourable if they are aromantic, and don’t experience romantic attraction?” Many reasons. Maybe you are curious about romantic relationships. Maybe you want the emotional closeness of a romantic relationships, or the associated perks. Maybe you only feel comfortable having sex within a romantic relationship. Even if you can’t articulate a reason, it’s totally valid to want a romantic relationship, even if you are aromantic.

Hmm, it sounds like you’re romance-repulsed, or at least romance-averse, as well. That’s something worth looking into, mind you.

I think you should play it by ear. I’ve seen people say to wait to tell your date you’re asexual after a few dates, and others say right away. It’s not cruel to hold back from talking about it, and you likely won’t be “depriving” anyone of sex.

But it sounds like run-of-the-mill romantic stuff has a negative effect on you, and as most people will be comfortable with romance, it’s probably best to explain to them how you feel sooner than later, as not to jeopardize your comfort zone.

It isn’t morally wrong to omit the details of your identity, no. That should depend solely on what you think is best, and no one else’s opinions should factor in on it more than your own.

Of course, my perspective is one of many that we have to offer.

Hey! So it sounds like you may be romance adverse. Romance adverse is when you don’t really like things that you consider romantic. So if you consider kissing, cuddles, etc. romantic then you may be romance adverse if that makes any sense?Your orientation depends upon how you experience attraction. So if you don’t feel romantic attraction to people (get crushes), then you may be aromantic!