meanwhile: - liking people only when it's online and they're far away / they're an idealized version in my head - craving intimacy but then when a relationship got too real it felt like a chore to do any romance - with activities i only really wanted to do platonic stuff, the thought of doing romantic or sexual stuff didn't rly appeal me - being broken up with for "not being romantic enough" - during relationships, feeling like i was a fraud - questioned at times (internally) whether i wasnt a lesbian in a straight relationship bc i didnt feel attracted to my partner all that much - but i had a similar experience with dating women - also said questioning made me 100% fear like i was leading him on - just chasing an idealized version in my head caused some Situations

and yeah i know it's not limited to those experiences and i'm drawing a blank rn. I want to let you know that even if you aren't repulsed or averse to romance / sex or want / like the idea of relationships / companionships you can still 100% be aromantic and there's nothing wrong in being so.

susie already feels fundamentally bad and broken. that there's something intrinsically wrong with her that causes the people in her life to distance themselves from her, that she fails the people around her, that she's not good enough for others...

applying this onto aromantic susie x allo/romo noelle suselle is so interesting to me

susie liking noelle but not being able to reciprocate her feelings in the same way. her feeling ashamed that she can't perform romance/love/affection the 'right way' for noelle. susie feeling like she's letting her down, that she's a bad person for ‘leading her on’. she doesn’t want to disappoint noelle even though she doesn’t feel she can be good enough anyway

I feel isolated sometimes from the rest of the community. I know that all aros are different, but people seem to get really mad at rom-favourable aros as if we're not real aros/are the 'perfect aros' for fandoms to erase aro people with.

I'm not erasing anyone by existing! I'm a cupioromantic, desinoromantic (to irl people) and fictoromatic! I know that's a lot but I wanted to share in case anyone related.

My relationship with romantic feelings is strange. Idk if I've ever felt any, but I know I feel something that could be considered close to romantic for someone for a max of like 2 months before that attraction becomes alterous (that I interpret to be romantic attraction + platonic attraction but never fully one or the other.)

I am fine with dating alloromantic people as long as they can respect I might be different from them as an aro and have f/os that mean a lot to me. I like the idea of a romantic relationship, and although it won't be entirely typical for ME, I'm still excited to be in a proper one someday.

Happy pride month to AROS in general tho! I do not hate anyone who is not romance favourable and hope they get everything they want and more forever because we go through a lot y'all.