Blueprint: How DNA Makes Us Who We Are (Robert Plomin, 2018)
āWe saw in the previous chapter that shared environmental influence hardly affects personality, mental health or cognitive abilities after adolescence.
This even includes personality traits that seem especially susceptible to parental influence such as altruism, kindness and conscientiousness.
The only exception from hundreds of traits that shows some evidence of shared environmental influence is religious and political beliefs.
As a parent, you can make a difference to your childās beliefs, but even here shared environmental influence accounts for only 20 per cent of the variance. (ā¦)
As a parent, you feel deep down that you can make a difference in how your children develop.
You can help children with their reading and arithmetic. You can help a shy child overcome shyness.
Also it seems as if you must be able to make a difference because you are bombarded with childrearing books and the media telling you how to do it right and making you anxious about doing it wrong.
(These books are, however, useful in providing parenting tips, for example, about how to get children to go to sleep, how to feed fussy children and how to handle issues of discipline.)
But when these bestselling parenting books promise to deliver developmental outcomes, they are peddling snake oil. (ā¦)
If we are happy and confident, we might credit this to our parentsā love and support.
Or if we are psychologically damaged, we might blame this on inadequate parenting.
However, the implications of genetic research are just as applicable here.Ā
These differences in parenting are not correlated with differences in childrenās outcomes once you control for genetics.Ā
Your parentsā systematic influence on who you are lies with the genes they gave you.ā










