"Good job"
A parenting tip I would like to leave is when you tell a child "good job" the child will learn how to perform for their parents or teachers or those around them. Think about the feeling that comes with saying "Good job?" The feeling that comes with this is one of feeling like a child has to perform for someone in order to be recognized as doing something well. How about replacing "good job" with, "that was very responsible" This gives the child the definition of what responsibility looks like and follows this up with, "How does this make you feel? Does this make you feel happy and excited? Telling your child that this is very responsible teaches the child how to be responsible and what responsibility looks like. Children may not know what responsibility looks like but they do know what "good job" feels like because they want to perform for people instead of doing what is responsible.
