#relationshipseeking

When the bills are paid,

when you’re laughing more than you're arguing,

when everything feels light & fun.

That kind of love is simple.

It’s the kind of love that shows up for the pictures,

for the date nights,

for the “good mood” days.

But real love?

It’s different.

Real love shows up when things get hard.

When you’re both exhausted.

When the house gets a little bit messy & the stress feels endless.

When one of you shuts down and the other doesn’t know what the hell to say.

Real pure love, well

It’s choosing each other through the storm,

even when the silence feels louder than the words.

It’s forgiving, learning, trying again over and over, even when it hurts.

Real love isn’t just about the good days.

It’s about the ones that put you to the test!

The nights you may sleep back to back but still wake up trying.

The arguments you don’t walk away from.

The moments you could give up.. but you don’t.

Real pure committed love is messy.

It’s raw.

It’s far from perfect.

But it’s steady.

It’s loyal.

It's worth the effort.

And it’s the kind of love that stays...not because it’s easy, but because it’s what is in life that's worth living for.

Make me laugh more please!

Shit like that is said by those who don't want to love one, and consistency is only in their eyes looking for another to benefit their moment not their heart and soul for every tomorrow.

An idea of someone to be with?

Haha!

That's too easy.

I made very well be a wordsmith but it's not to bullshit, it's real shit and it's from my heart good or bad but it's always truth.

That's a weak man or a narcissist not a real man who dies survive through it all alone or otherwise!

And with all due respect ladies, I don't agree with you at all saying that I want someone just to end solitude out of loneliness!

I don't & would never fall in love with ideas or the idea of someone.

I've been alone & single for almost 4 years now and I'm fine with all I am, my solitude and the fact that I may in fact live my life out alone because I'm real as well as more honest than anyone I know.

Financially it's absolutely a winning situation for me being alone, or anyone.

If I was someone who gave a shit about material things or money but I couldn't care less beyond my immediate needs being met.

None of that buys happiness time or love.

To have someone to love and be loved by is a sincere purpose and not just an idea to me and never has been an idea.

Love like I seek is rare, or extinct maybe?

I've met no female that believes in a devoted relationship with one & only one eternally.

Relationships and marriage has been something sacred to me since I can remember memories, based on my grand parents who were together happily before their children, grandchildren and great great grandchildren and after and died one after the other, my grandma first naturally. Their relationship was never in a mentality or having feelings of animosity or anger and abuse towards each other.

My grandpa worked every day but Sunday until his wife died.

He came inside and waited to die after his wife passed because love and his purpose had been served and passed and he was ready to join her again with God.

That's what I base love on. Am I the only one left who wants that with only one woman until it's over naturally?

Being devoted and committed to that one & only woman in happiness loyalty and communication that's never ignorant or with any hate or disdain?

Never physically or mentally abusive.

Generous & giving.

It seems I may be!

I guess it's time to face facts that my person won't be found or just fall in my lap.

What woman on earth actually with sincerity desires an intimate one love, including loyalty, respect, honoring the unity and contentment of a love in action & effort that never stops but gives by choice every minute of every hour every day infinitely?

Extends trust long enough to see it's real and the only changing is better and brighter!

That's the only way I know how to love, how to relationship right by my own definition after living life, experiencing life, my children, loss of one of my children and of love in a unit.

You think I don't understand what love is, why love is sacred & how to give it?

Two whole people giving 100/100 because it's worth it & this stability can be counted on because this love don't leave or abandon, it's truth, it's alive and a verb.. a pure touching caring love.

The only changing is the change of older in aging, becoming better versions of who we are & what we committed to be to each other.

I'd rather be alone with a dog as my companion then faking shit, being with someone that's faking shit, or loving an idea of someone or being with someone not in it for real like I am sincerely on purpose!

I don't fake devotion to God or to someone I choose daily before my eyes open, and loving with commitment!

Hold her like she can’t let go.

Secondly, when I love, I love completely.

Thirdly, when it's you, It's only you.

So if you lose me, it's on you.

I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, more like a double shot of Mezcal or Petrone Tequila: bold, intentional, and not for the weak.

I’m soft when I feel safe, thunder loud when I’m passionate & silent when I’ve outgrown the noise or strike.

I’m not here to play, waste time or make a Penpal connection.

I’m here to be real, to be radiant and to live in full alignment, not merely existing.

Wanting not needing to be with anyone.

I think I can be handsome, powerful & completely unapologetic about both. 🖤

Fully booked in self-love & self-worth.

The old me died & the new me is reborn trying to become the best version of myself daily.

I have my time and attention to give & I'm not seeking someone for things, or their things nor anything monetary.

I got me.

You measure love in transformation.

Sometimes the longest connections yield very little growth, while the briefest of encounters teach massive amounts of relationship knowledge & change everything.

The heart doesn’t wear a fucking watch - my heart at least, it is timeless.

It doesn’t care how long you know/knew someone.

It doesn’t care if you had a 40 year anniversary if there is no juice in the connection.

What the heart cares about is true resonance.

Resonance that opens it, resonance that enlivens it, resonance that calls it home.

And when it finds it, the transformation begins....

I'm a dreamer...

Like lukewarm hands, or in words that look like real felt promises, in borrowed time, in a sea of fakes, pretenders or strangers, but then again, just maybe all this time she's closer, right in my view all along.

Put down reservations, don't be shy, I want you & I'll never reject you.

Come to me & take the hands that will heal your feathers & nurture your wings to freely fly & be all you are.

This time without fear of anything or anyone.

Only an expectation that maybe she'd be turned away if any action or reaction occurred at all.

Brave, being able to see him daily.

But now with a knowledge of his love being pure, not oppressive or demanding but empowering, patient & without judgement she could come to him.

His every word honest, & she had no doubt because she could see truth in his gray blue eyes, watching his actions & drive, along with his true words that were never hollow, proven by his actions.

He loved her.

She could trust him.

And she was more than enough.

He knew she was beautiful, intelligent & capable of more.

He wants to teach her what her worth is & encourage her to be only her best version of herself.

Now he sees her towering self esteem as she grasped for herself.

He promised never to take a thing from her, only adding courage, strength & the wisdom of knowing this is reality with him; she felt safe from all the world, a love that redefined love, so much that she finally felt the wholeness of herself too, absolutely knowing that she wasn't ever half, but whole all along.

Facing a threat against all humans, but not alone now just he & her, sharing the same intimate space day after day.... Finding the refreshing & enchanting time spent with him and no others was easy, natural & what she wanted her entire life.

He was happy & yet like a gigantic Pitbull in only a driven gear; protective, loving, caring, he gave an undying love & a reach forward, no side-steps or reverse.

His experience & appetite for learning more, his ability to not only hear her but listen also built even more trust.

She now fierce, strong & full of fire - and that even she couldn't hold herself back much less any other human, because her passion burned brighter than her fears now; her confidence & self love was now what she saw & felt as fact.

She loved him & he loved her & all they would achieve as one.

Two hearts that beat as one with enough care to love so much more.

Life renewed.

Every tomorrow anticipated with excitement of their success.

Just come to me now little girl.