Why would a guy be continually not wanting to answer my questions saying “You ask the stupidest fucking questions as if we just met, Why are you asking so many questions…he kept on avoiding my question if he just wanted to hookup I said to him “Did you just want to hookup if I come? I’m confused by our last conversation you were saying how you wanted me to go to Naples instead because you’ll be able to spend more time with me” and he goes “bruh Like how are you seriously always so lost. Shits ridiculous.” And I was like “okay…I’m not” and he goes “I’m so bored of this. Goodbye for good.” And I was like “How’re you always so lost? I’ve told you many times… I don’t know why you do this. You say you want me to come and that we won’t just hookup, then say I should go to Naples so you’ll spend more time with me..and you’re confused as to why I’m confused? …what At this point I am lost You just want to upset me. I’m over it It’s really frustrating how I have to tell you the same things over in conversation like how I don’t want to come just to hookup…I’ve told you this and yet we still have the same conversation and you act like I’m not understanding. Idk what I’ve to make you think otherwise” and he goes “Ok then don’t worry, we won’t see each other anyways” I don’t know why he’s being like this to me…even before he kept on ignoring me asking about it saying to “just come”.
Thanks for coming to us for advice and guidance.
It seems as if you are having a communication issue with this person, are you only texting? Maybe this is a phone conversation since you can’t meet face to face so quickly.
Also, by the information you’re giving us this person has a problem with not only being patient but considerate of your feelings and how to respond to your feelings with care and understanding. Your questions are valid. Don’t allow yourself to be gaslit or shamed for wanting clarification.
Now we are going to give you a hard pill to swallow, be ready to receive this with love and respect:
Not only do you set the tone for how you want to be treated, you also have to stand on your boundaries! If this person is making you feel uneasy and anxious, step back, look at what you want… does this align with that? If not, this may not be the person for you and that’s okay! This is why self love and self awareness is important to have.
✨We recommend you confiding in a trustworthy friend who will give you a voice of reason and fresh perspective on your situation. If you don’t have someone please try a therapist! (Don’t be ashamed or offended, my therapist changed my life!) In between confiding with a love one or a therapist, we want you to keep a journal, write down not only your thoughts and feelings but what you want ! Use this as an opportunity to build self awareness, love, and confidence within yourself!
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