Girl, the man you're dating actually HATES YOU
These relationships where ya'll are constantly chasing and trying to change these men who obviously don't like you has some of you in a chokehold!
.... here's some signs to look for:
(like to save for later)
+ He doesn’t do basic or simple things he knows you want him to do or will make you happy. This is HUGE especially if they’re small gestures or inexpensive things. He's cheap, not thoughtful or romantic and just flat out believes you're not worth spending his money on.
+ You’re not actually friends. If you take out any kind of physical attraction you actually don’t really have a lot in common or enjoy each other as people. If you weren’t dating you wouldn’t be friends at all.
You don't like him either ...
+ He loves annoying or provoking you. If you complain about an problem and he keeps doing it, he’s hurting you on purpose. He just don't care. I’m not talking about teasing and inside jokes, I’m talking about something you mentioned that seriously affects or upsets you, yet he uses it to provoke you.
+ He says over the top disrespectful things when ‘joking’. End it. He knows he's hitting below the belt but wants to see how much you can take. This is a gateway to abusive behavior that will only get worse, could even turn physical ...
+ He looks at or comments on other women’s looks in front of you. He knows this will upset you and he’s doing it to ‘put you in your place’.
What's worst? He never compliments you and always complains about how you look, what you wear, or your body type. How'd you end up with him?
Isn't it uncomfortable as hell being around a man you can't be yourself around or can't ever feel at peace with? Then this kind of man will act like making him happy is some kind of crazy accomplishment. You found yourself right where he wants you, jumping through circus hoops for approval and the fact of the matter is ... you'll never get the act right because he doesn't like you. AND SCENE.
Need more proof?
+ He's a "people pleaser" when it comes to others and when it's convenient for him. He claims he has to say/do this or can't say/do that because of XYZ and doesn't want to cause a problem...but he has no problem standing on business when it comes to you.
or worst, he doesn't like people at all. Like nobody, not even his own mama ... but you thought you were the exception.
+ You can't talk to him about something he said or did that you disliked without him blowing up or turning it on you.
+ He's quick to anger or get jealous and you can't even make light conversation with someone around him or his need to control your attention comes into full effect.
+ He never defends you or give you the benefit of the doubt when people disrespect you. You always have to fend for yourself. What do you need him for?
I don't think people really understand how truly deceitful and pretentious most men are. They are very calculating and play the long game well. Men are RUTHLESS when their goal is attained - his goal meaning having s. with you, living with you, getting money from you, and having full access to you.
Utilize that block button.
If he only demonstrates his ability to act right when you're about to walk away you might trip and fall. It’s manipulation. He's playing you.
Any, even a little patience and tolerance for any of this behavior is unacceptable.
This man hates you because he hates himself.
(in time I'll add on to this list because theres more, theres always more. Feel free to reblog and add your own.)
