You broke up, meet someone new again and again, time after time, but youâre still thinking of that old love. And itâll hurt eventually, and especially when youâre still within reach of one another.
Just like its name suggest, a rebound relationship is like an constant âon and offâ relationship you have with a particular partner regardless of the many times of breaking ups and hooking with other lovers. It usually happens in the early stage of breaking up with someone and in the early stage of knowing another person. Is it harmful? Well, thatâs for you to decide.
 Signs that shows youâre in that rebound relationship dilemma:-
Almost everyday, every hour of the day and perhaps nearly every minute and second, you are reminded of your ex lover.
It hurts and depresses you when you think of the old memories where you and your ex lover use to be happy and all sweet and lovey-dovey.
You feel like if you have the power to control time, you would turn it back to when you were once together still. You regretted the breakup in the first place.
At peak you feel stripped off from any embarrassment, and thought of only getting back to your ex, bulldozing that considerably big ego of yours and apologize right away - if thatâs what it takes for you to get back together.
You start digging about the latest news on your ex (actually youâve been doing this indiscreetly right in the beginning of the break-up phaseâŚ). You look over his or her photo albums over and over again, checking out his connections and news to know whatâs going on with his or her life. Most in particular, what bothers you the most is whether he or she has already found a replacement of you.
Youâre already with someone new, but you want to change everything about him or her⌠to be like your ex lover, whether in terms of looks or attitude. Sad case.
You start stalking, making prank calls and all other sorts of emotional harassment to your ex lover when you found out that he or she is finally out with someone new.
You start calling him or her again, asking to meet up with the reason âJust for old time sakeâ kinda of meeting. And youâre doing all this pretty often without your current loverâs knowing about it.
You often talk about him with the new love of your life, and even your friends and family, leaving them feeling insecure, and confused in the end. Much to same degree of your own sense of insecurity and confusion.
Usually people donât realized theyâre in a rebound phase or already in a rebound relationship, not only after some time of the current relationship. It should be clear enough when you thought, âoh, he used to treat me better than thisâ, and you start telling your friends and family, âheâs nothing like my exâŚblah blah blahâ. So the moral of the story is - try not to fall in love too quickly after a breakup. People who usually fall in a rebound love relationship falls in love too quickly after their previous relationship but I guess itâs only normal since human beings are naturally scared of being alone, regardless of what they say. But is it the only solution? Think about it. When youâre using another person for the sake of occupying your time and mind, youâll probably get hurt again in the end. Itâs not fair for you, and your new partner. You can be with someone after a breakup, but maybe you shouldnât be easily confuse it with âloveâ, and you should make that clear to the other party as well.
