Ethical question here!
So my husband has not seen his family in over two years. They are unwilling to travel to us, even though they’ve been travelling elsewhere (including attending conventions). There is a border between us and I get that is a big mental block.
My husband and I are going to take our first vacation in six years this spring for our eleventh anniversary. For various reason it would be best for us to go to a location in the same state three of my husbands siblings live in, although it’s not particularly near any of them. We’d be staying in a friend of a families empty house, that we have stayed in before. It’s not a random location, and I’d feel safer there than a hotel, given the pandemic.
The problem is that my husband thinks we should invite his parents and his siblings to visit, for part but not all of the time.
I get that he wants to see them and have very much encouraged the following options - he visits them on his own now - or he flies down early while I’m still taking care of the kids and visits them then.
I love his siblings very much, and my in-laws and I get along pretty well, but this has been (and is) a very long time coming. I’m perfectly OK with seeing no one even though I’d miss them. In addition, when we’ve tried to coordinate things like this in the past, everyone has insisted on coming at a different time to spend quality time with us, which means we have had none with eachother.
What should we do?
