what is then a healthy relationship? you’ll always “loose” a bit of yourself, if you want to manage a whole life with somebody else, but sure there are middle roads. the badest thing is to hold somebody for balancing your own inferiority complexes. sure not every problem is made by yourself, e.g. social structures and categories affect lives in different forms, but sometimes understanding is the first step for a real change- inside and outside. 

We must come together, and instead of fighting against the things we do not want, war, poverty, homelessness, disease, control, ect. The people must focus on what they would like instead, abundance, security, freedom, peace, education, and love for ALL individiuals. This must be communicated, rather than forced.