Balance
I feel like Tumblr misses this concept so much and it results in some kind of painful, confusing whiplash. I want to just put this out there so I can remind myself.
YOUR HEALTH is important. Yes, go body positivity. If you’re curvy and short, or tall and stick thin, or you’re tall and curvy or short and square shaped, WHATEVER body you’ve got, your body is going to be beautiful if you take care of yourself and are kind. You don’t need to diet and track numbers to be thriving and healthy; you can have little rolls and sparkling eyes and everyone will still love you the exact same. If you’re getting obsessed with the numbers and the light is fading from your eyes, STOP. Eat two pieces of toast. Sweeten your tea. Have a cupcake. Get the light back in your eyes. But there’s also a balance. If you aren’t taking care of yourself, and you aren’t happy with your body, and you aren’t able to do the things you want to be able to do, then STOP. Give up soda and drink a ton of water. Get outside, move your body, enjoy the fall leaves and fresh air. Eat brownies too, but try to switch it out for yummy fruits! Try new recipes. Get the light back in your eyes.
BEAUTY-WISE, If you love makeup and styled hair, rock it girl. Slay with that black eyeliner, wear heel boots every day of the week. If you do your best work when you intimidate those boys and look like a movie star, do it. Lots of people are going to worship your style. If you don’t like makeup and you love your messy, wild hair, ROCK IT. Take care of your skin, grow your hair out in a wavy mermaid mess, get the sparkle in your eyes and look like a ray of sunshine all the time. Lots of people are going to love your vulnerability and freedom.
WORK-WISE, take care of yourself!!! Don’t work your cute butt off taking care of others AND yourself without stopping to rest. Make a time limit to studying at night. Don’t take an amount of hours you’ll be miserable in. Don’t be afraid to say no. Don’t work the light out of your eyes. At the same time, if all you do is lay around and make excuses, GET UP! Clean your space, open the windows, make a plan, get some work done. Get caught up, maybe even get ahead! Productivity and rest have to be a mutual thing for you to enjoy the rest and do well in the work.
BELIEFS-WISE, stand up for what you believe. Stand on your own two feet and be able to share your ideas with your friends and be comfortable with them. Don’t act aloof just to seem “cool”. Stand by what you say. But don’t attack them for not agreeing! Be faithful to what you believe but still listen to their ideas openly, giving them feedback or criticisms of their IDEAS not them as people. Laugh, go out to lunch, be friends and agree to disagree without wrecking your relationship.
When I’m married, no one is going to “wear the pants”. I hate that question. We’re a team, we both bring our ideas and criticisms to the table, we have different strengths and weaknesses and we’ll love each other and bother each other equally. We’ll both parent our kids, we’ll both make money, we’ll both have friends and events to go to. We’ll be a team.
This stands for everything. Food, beauty, relationships. I don’t have to be super lean or super jacked, I can be in the middle. I don’t have to be introverted or friendly, I can be both. I can be intimidating and kind, I can love Christmas and summer, I can love pop and indie, I can do so many things and experiment without feeling like I have to label it all.
Anyways that’s it. I just needed to write this out so I could see it again; I need to keep reminding myself to stay steady, stay in the middle, not let people’s lives swing my views so violently to each extreme without really considering what I NEED.
❤️
