#question 1

Bonus question:

@siriusandharryweekarchive

Day 1 - What is your favorite thing about Sirius & Harry?

I always really loved the instant connection.  I loved that Harry who needed an adult who would be all about him and care about him the way that his aunt and uncle should’ve cared about him finally got what he wanted and needed.

love is comfortable and warm, even when we dont speak for a while. it's being comfortable to sit in silence and encouraging one another to chase after different goals but also knowing how to keep eachother in check and grounded.

sometimes its fuzzy and exciting, so much so that your cheeks hurt from smiling, and sometimes its an ache in your chest when someone you love is struggling. it always has its ups and downs, and if you want it to last then you have to be willing to work with eachother through the low moments.

(aha,, im not the most eloquent person and im prone to rambling, so i hope that all makes sense. good luck on your quest to understand human nature! <3)

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Thank you Star Anon for your lovely and insightful answer. Your answer was plenty eloquent, please do not worry.

Love has so many types, facets and layers, that I see how it can be difficult at times to identify it at its core. Based on our observations towards your culture on romantic love...we understand how it can be a tricky, more complex thing.

Seeing how love can be described, and shown in many ways...How it can be an exciting, fuzzy feeling in your heart, and how it can also be a painful ache at your chest...

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But at its roots, it comes from love. What a comforting thing.

I am starting to see that it is a strength. Like a beaten and battered warrior. One that still fights, despite it all.

love is more than one thing. it's thinking about someone when they're not there. it's waking up to them crying in the middle of the night, and doing everything you can to comfort them. it's standing by their side, asking them what they need, what they don't, and listening to them.

love is action. it's finding a keychain, a pin, a pair of socks that reminds you of them, and presenting them to them with a grin. love is joy in the highs, and pain in the lows, but it's worth it because of the joy you felt.

love is a family helping one another take care of a dying family member.

love is work. love is great and easy sometimes, but love is also sticking by people when it isn't easy. love is finding someone who it's worth going through hell for, and love is helping someone get through that hell.

love is resting your head on your friend's shoulder and knowing you want them in your life.

Your answer is highly moving. We were under the assumption that love was a constant positive. That it is something that can come easily and naturally. We see now that it is full of effort, and deliberate work. It is a wonder then, that love shows comes through a world full of constant, difficult hardship.

Oh...Love is more difficult than I had thought. Would it still be possible to have love without the hardships? Isn't love suppose to be unconditional?

I don't feel like its possible to have love without the hardships, Volo. Yes, it may be unconditional as we have learned, but that doesn't mean—

Oh, so you think you understand love more than we do? You speak as if you're above us.

Thats not what I—

to me, its like.. if something makes me happy, its hard to say that i dont love it. my mutuals, my friends, my cats, my hobbies and such! i love it all !! for a long time, i thought that hapiness and love just werent for me. so, now when i feel love, i hold onto that feeling with all my might !!!! its a feeling i cherish greatly. its not always happy, its hard to admit when something/someone you love is bad for you, but its always been worth it, in my experience. i still have wonderful memories to look back on, after all!

also volo u asked why someone would want love - i think, whether you mean to love or be loved, the answers the same, and thats that it feels good ! but theres a lot of people that dont want love, which doesnt necessarily mean that theyre unhappy, maybe they just have other ways of expressing their joy :)

in short. i am building a house ot of bricks and the bricks are love. and i am throwing a brick at each one of you (´▽`ʃ♡ƪ) sorry if this answer was too long, i love yapping >_<

Your answer is enlightening, thank you. Do not apologize for your long answer, they are greatly helpful. I see now that love and happiness isn't mutually exclusive, and that in a way, can be one of the same. That whatever brings one happiness, causes one to love and deeply cherish it as well.

I was not aware that something you love can be bad for you. Isn't it all suppose to be good? How can it be bad for anyone?

Thank you for answering my question, Penguin. I'm starting to understand through the past answers why it would feel good. Just how good can it get? Can it be so good that it defeats every bad in ones life?

And thank you for stating other perspective on love. We are starting to understand that even if your world looks like its centered around the concept love, does not mean that everyone shares the same sentiment.

Haha! Love bricks is a funny concept, thank you for throwing some at us! Honestly, building a home out of everything you love sounds like a lovely idea, I feel one would be happy everyday. I thought love was purely based on actions or feelings towards another person, but I see now that you can also love something you do!

i like seeing lists that talk about “saying i love you without saying i love you,” and it would be things like

- remembering someone’s favorite show

- taking pictures of everything that reminds you of them

- collecting all the little things that you may receive from/with them (ex. keeping all the movie ticket receipts you get from outings with them)

- taking the long route home because you want to talk longer

- spending time making a meaningful gift full of things you know they enjoy or love, making sure it’s all in their favorite color

- making food a certain way because you remember they like it that way

- getting into their interests because they enjoy them

things like that!

i think it’s a lot of being willing to do things you don’t have to do, and those things don’t have to be hard things. they can be simple, and they can be sweet.

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Words cannot describe our gratitude for your highly enlightening answer. I feel we are almost fully able to grasp such a concept as love.

We did not know that love can be shown through little pieces of action. It is fascinating to see how humans show that they care for one another in a myriad of ways, big or small. And I see now that it is often the small gestures that shows that someone knows you well, remembers you well, and takes interest in what you do...How beautiful for someone else to love you.

All these actions you've described, they make me feel so warm in my chest. All these things are so simple as you've said, but they are such a tremendously wonderful thing

...I wonder what it would feel like if I were to feel them myself.

You cannot, Sentio. Even if you wanted to.

-Cat

This is a fascinating answer, thank you. Your personal description has greatly helped our research. We hope that you may answer future questions as well.

I see how people would want to chase love, even through cuts and bruises, just for that feeling of belonging. I must admit, I am a bit envious of it.

Feeling like you belong and being supported, seen, and cared for...even in all your faults...