#quean advice

(I can only speak from my own perspective and opinions. Not every quean will share my views.)

Jealousy can be a double edged sword in cuckqueaning. I’ve heard some queans only feel compersion and not much jealousy all. Other queans, especially those who become aroused by humiliation, can find jealousy a bit uncomfortable, yet it turns them on. Jealousy can be a driving tool for cuckqueaning.

Most queans start off by realizing they get turned on thinking about their men with other women who are hotter or sexier than them. The other women may bring out jealousy in the queans, but the jealousy feels delicious when they’re teasing their pussies, imagining their men fucking these hotter women, right? You want your man to fuck her, realize she’s better. You want the other woman to win.

But after you cum, you feel a drop. You “sober up” and the threat to your relationship becomes real. You feel jealous and the thought of him fucking someone else doesn’t seem so fun anymore…until you’re fantasizing about it again.

Or you might be a quean that is already past the fantasizing part; your man is already fucking someone else. You get off on it, but you still experience an uncomfortable amount of jealousy.

So what do you do with this jealousy?

If you’re only fantasizing about being cucked, take a deep breath and realize it’s only a fantasy. No harm has been done. Your man has not fucked anyone else. If you fantasy play with him and ask him to tell you how much he wants to fuck another woman, try to remember there’s nothing wrong with finding other people attractive. There’s nothing wrong with thinking, “I’d fuck that person if I could.” Thinking and acting are two different things. If you truly love someone, betraying them isn’t worth it. But it’s human nature to find other people attractive and entertain the thought of a little sex with no intention to act on it. You might love your partner, but there are always hotter people and there’s nothing wrong with noticing that and even having an occasional fantasy. Once you understand the safety of that, you can relax a little.

My next bit of advice is for queans who partake in fantasy play with their man, or who are actively being cucked. It’s extremely important that you communicate your feelings about jealousy to him. It’s crucial that he understands how your brain works and how jealousy is so deeply connected to you being a quean and how it affects you in positive and negative ways.

Teach him how it turns you on and why the jealousy makes you feel uncomfortable after you cum. Teach him what AFTERCARE looks like to you. Have you considered aftercare for yourself after such a heavy emotional experience? You should be aware what he can do to build you up and make you feel safe after you’ve been made to be so vulnerable.

If you aren’t ready to have these conversations or if he is not willing to try and understand, that may be a red flag. 🚩 It is common for men to enjoy the pleasurable parts involved with cucking a woman and lack the intellectual maturity to unpack the heavy emotions a woman feels when being cucked. If your man is incapable of learning how your mind works and giving you proper aftercare, he may not be ready to cuck you.

This type of research and responsibility falls on both of you so communication is key.

I have more to say on this topic, including how orgasm denial can work with being cucked, but I will share this for now.

If you can think of any questions or comments, please send me an Ask. I would love responses from other queans and queanbulls on the topic of jealousy.

What advice, suggestions, or recommendations might you have for someone in my position?

Thank you!

Hi!!! I’m glad you reached out! First of all, you should know how valuable you are! It’s not always easy for a couple to find a cake. You’re making their fantasies come true and it should be equally as beneficial to you!

I feel there’s so much I could share with you as far as advice and suggestions go. I’ll start light and invite you to send me more Asks if you have more questions.

1. First I want to suggest that you have great communication with the woman. That is very important. Queans can experience an emotional roller coaster when being cucked, especially if they are new at it and with a new cake. She can be turned in one moment, and then something can happen that might trigger uncomfortable feelings unexpectedly. It’s truly important to discuss boundaries with her and ask what she wants from the experience. She needs to be reassured that she is a part of the experience and it’s not all about you fucking her man. Having a good relationship with the quean and having her engaged in everything can really make the experience so much hotter! 💦

2. Try to be aware of your own needs and feelings. Be very transparent with them about your needs and boundaries. Make sure they both treat you with respect. If you no longer enjoy it, walk away.

3. Communicate with them about what turns you on the most and ask the same from them. Those kinds of conversations really help bring out the best experiences. All three of you can learn how to press each others buttons in all the right ways. Ask the quean how she likes to be cucked. Tell her what turns you on about it. It’s all about exploring, with consent.

(This is an old one I posted years ago)

Share your experiences with having a “Cuckquean High"🌷

If I could describe a “Cuckquean High”, I’d say it would be experiencing the most intense moments of lust as a Cuckquean. All you can think about is your husband fucking another pussy. You want it so bad that you might even detach yourself from reality and fantasize about, or act on, actions that could potentially be threatening to your marriage.

You could be watching porn, rubbing your clit, wanting him to have new pussy so bad that you hope he’s actually cheating on you.

You could want it so bad that you push an interaction with another woman to happen before things are fully discussed, resulting in a bad outcome.

The desire to be cucked is extremely strong, but once you cum, it’s very possible that the “high” may go away, and you come back down to reality. You really don’t want your husband to cheat. You really don’t want him to fuck the pretty girl he just met without the boundaries being discussed.

It’s important for new cuckqueans to be aware of this high because some first time cuckqueans might masturbate to orgasm during the process of being cucked, and then suffer anxieties as reality sets in and realize the love of their life is pounding a prettier pussy. They are likely to become jealous.

Hi! Unfortunately, sometimes people do lose interest. 😕 I’ve been on here a long time and some people, especially those who visit here for kink fun, will visit this app when they feel a little aroused. They might find someone for a little sexy chat, but flee after their needs are met. Some even keep in touch with the play friend but sometimes disappear if other things in life demand their attention. Some things just run their course. People lose interest.

If it’s too hard to find one constant person on here for him to chat with, perhaps focus on quick play with random person. If they stick around, cool. If not, oh well. Try not to get too invested in any one person.

If you're looking for women who have a cuckquean fetish, you might want to try kink sites like Fetlife for pro-kink dating apps. Some women have that listed as one of their kinks or that they like to share/watch. You may even write something on your profile about seeking women who are into that.

Something important that I should point out is you shouldn't try to poach another man's quean. If she is already in a quean dynamic, don't decide that he's not meeting her needs and suggest that she let you cuck her. It doesn't work that way.

Also, don't assume that any quean will automatically get turned on at the first mention of you fucking someone else. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten a message from a man who basically said, "Will you get wet if tell you I fucked someone?", thinking it works just like that. Speaking for myself, that is annoying. I need to be bonded to a man in order to develop quean feelings for him. I have to appreciate him and his sexuality to see him in that way. So you want to have consent before having that kind of interaction with a quean.

Now, if you're already in an established relationship and want to see if a woman has quean potential, you can always ask her. It may be easier if she's open minded to kinks and feels comfortable talking to you about them.

If you are unsure if she'd be into that, or feel she's not experienced enough to be open, you can always "test the waters " Some women may be turned on by the concept, but aren't fully aware of their kink. If she is a woman that is attracted to other women, there may be potential for a three-way, which is always a good foot in the door. If you watch porn together, you might want to have her watch some porn that caters to cuckqueaning. You can tease her while she's watching it and you may also react to parts of the video that really excites you so she knows you like it.

If you can get a woman into edging and denial, you would be amazed at how much her mind opens to different kinks.

As for signs, I do know some women can be pretty good at hiding this as their kink, especially if they are inexperienced or still trying to explore it. Some women can be quite confused by being turned on by this. Some women discover this about themselves from being cheated on.

If you decide to explore this with a woman, remember that communication, boundaries, and consent are very important and you will likely have issues if you don't put that person's feelings first. A new quean may have difficulty processing her emotions and it's best you be present for her and how she feels without judgement. It is a very mental kink and you must be responsible when exploring that with someone. It's so much more than just having a woman that lets you fuck other women. If you are getting into it just to have a loving woman stand by your side while you have all the sex you want with other women, you are probably getting into it for the wrong reasons.

Thank you.

He has always been open to cucking me since I have explained in full detail and shown that I enjoy it but have never had any physical experience with it. He has told me he wasn’t sure if he wanted to go all the way with it period.

Point is neither of us have experienced it outside of fantasy. Recently him and I got into an argument,during so he told me about how he has severe intrusive thoughts about my past partners (before we dated) that effect his daily life and sleep. He told me he was desperate to get rid of them, and 2 options he think would work is if he cucked me, or I break up with him.

I told him how absolutely selfish that sounded, and that with the issues he’s dealing with, I doubt us physically doing this kink would help him or us in any way. I personally do not think him cucking me would help his intrusive thoughts, and I feel like I would not be prioritized if said thing happened which is not what I want.

I’m very stuck on what to do next. this has been keeping me up for a few days now, I haven’t slept a full 8 hours in 2 days, and at random parts of the day I start feeling major anxiety that he really sees no other option on how to treat his mental issues and takes it out on me by genuinely cheating on me. It also doesn’t make it better that my bf and I are currently long distance (temp) I also feel kind of pressured into having him cuck me in person which is not something I want. I love my boyfriend and want him to continue to love me and be faithful. I love this kink as a whole as well and I do not want him making me hate it.

I don’t know who to go to for this because none of my friends have experience with cucking or being cucked. A lot don’t even know what a cuckquean is. I can’t understand why he would want to push for it now during an argument JUST so he can “fix” his intrusive thoughts? I don’t know what to do. I’m so stuck and my best friend has told me not to move forward or backwards on this. So that is what I’m doing. If it’s not a problem, I would appreciate it if I could have a quean’s insight on this.

Thank you. I love your stories by the way ❤️

Hi there! I’m glad you messaged me about this! The first thing I want to point out is your boyfriend should not cuck you because he is having insecurities about your past partners. That is a hard no.

Having a cuckquean kink is a very deep and intimate part of you that should only be explored with care. Read that part again. ❤️

If he were to cuck you out of his own spite, he may ruin the kink for you and make it difficult for you to process and explore in the future.

The fact that he has issues and insecurities about your past partners is a red flag in itself. Who you were with before him isn’t his business, and his issues with your past isn’t your problem. He needs to sort his insecurities out. It would be toxic for him to act on insecurity or spite when it comes to exploring your deepest kink.

The fact is some partners will never understand our needs when it comes to our kinks. Cucking you isn’t all about him. It’s an experience he is sharing with you. It’s his responsibility to explore how you would like to experience it and to do so in a way that protects you.

It should absolutely not be done to “get even”.

Honestly, I would keep it fantasy for now until he is able to process whatever issues he has with your past partners.

Please remember his mental issues should not be your burden. He needs to do his part by seeking therapy or whatever he needs. He’s not your project to fix; you have your own life to live.