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(I can only speak from my own perspective and opinions. Not every quean will share my views.)

Jealousy can be a double edged sword in cuckqueaning. I’ve heard some queans only feel compersion and not much jealousy all. Other queans, especially those who become aroused by humiliation, can find jealousy a bit uncomfortable, yet it turns them on. Jealousy can be a driving tool for cuckqueaning.

Most queans start off by realizing they get turned on thinking about their men with other women who are hotter or sexier than them. The other women may bring out jealousy in the queans, but the jealousy feels delicious when they’re teasing their pussies, imagining their men fucking these hotter women, right? You want your man to fuck her, realize she’s better. You want the other woman to win.

But after you cum, you feel a drop. You “sober up” and the threat to your relationship becomes real. You feel jealous and the thought of him fucking someone else doesn’t seem so fun anymore…until you’re fantasizing about it again.

Or you might be a quean that is already past the fantasizing part; your man is already fucking someone else. You get off on it, but you still experience an uncomfortable amount of jealousy.

So what do you do with this jealousy?

If you’re only fantasizing about being cucked, take a deep breath and realize it’s only a fantasy. No harm has been done. Your man has not fucked anyone else. If you fantasy play with him and ask him to tell you how much he wants to fuck another woman, try to remember there’s nothing wrong with finding other people attractive. There’s nothing wrong with thinking, “I’d fuck that person if I could.” Thinking and acting are two different things. If you truly love someone, betraying them isn’t worth it. But it’s human nature to find other people attractive and entertain the thought of a little sex with no intention to act on it. You might love your partner, but there are always hotter people and there’s nothing wrong with noticing that and even having an occasional fantasy. Once you understand the safety of that, you can relax a little.

My next bit of advice is for queans who partake in fantasy play with their man, or who are actively being cucked. It’s extremely important that you communicate your feelings about jealousy to him. It’s crucial that he understands how your brain works and how jealousy is so deeply connected to you being a quean and how it affects you in positive and negative ways.

Teach him how it turns you on and why the jealousy makes you feel uncomfortable after you cum. Teach him what AFTERCARE looks like to you. Have you considered aftercare for yourself after such a heavy emotional experience? You should be aware what he can do to build you up and make you feel safe after you’ve been made to be so vulnerable.

If you aren’t ready to have these conversations or if he is not willing to try and understand, that may be a red flag. 🚩 It is common for men to enjoy the pleasurable parts involved with cucking a woman and lack the intellectual maturity to unpack the heavy emotions a woman feels when being cucked. If your man is incapable of learning how your mind works and giving you proper aftercare, he may not be ready to cuck you.

This type of research and responsibility falls on both of you so communication is key.

I have more to say on this topic, including how orgasm denial can work with being cucked, but I will share this for now.

If you can think of any questions or comments, please send me an Ask. I would love responses from other queans and queanbulls on the topic of jealousy.

What advice, suggestions, or recommendations might you have for someone in my position?

Thank you!

Hi!!! I’m glad you reached out! First of all, you should know how valuable you are! It’s not always easy for a couple to find a cake. You’re making their fantasies come true and it should be equally as beneficial to you!

I feel there’s so much I could share with you as far as advice and suggestions go. I’ll start light and invite you to send me more Asks if you have more questions.

1. First I want to suggest that you have great communication with the woman. That is very important. Queans can experience an emotional roller coaster when being cucked, especially if they are new at it and with a new cake. She can be turned in one moment, and then something can happen that might trigger uncomfortable feelings unexpectedly. It’s truly important to discuss boundaries with her and ask what she wants from the experience. She needs to be reassured that she is a part of the experience and it’s not all about you fucking her man. Having a good relationship with the quean and having her engaged in everything can really make the experience so much hotter! 💦

2. Try to be aware of your own needs and feelings. Be very transparent with them about your needs and boundaries. Make sure they both treat you with respect. If you no longer enjoy it, walk away.

3. Communicate with them about what turns you on the most and ask the same from them. Those kinds of conversations really help bring out the best experiences. All three of you can learn how to press each others buttons in all the right ways. Ask the quean how she likes to be cucked. Tell her what turns you on about it. It’s all about exploring, with consent.

I think you might enjoy the humiliation aspect of it. I can relate. 😌

Does the fantasy of this excite you or do you suppose you’d feel differently if it happened in real life?

(This is an old one I posted years ago)

Share your experiences with having a “Cuckquean High"🌷

If I could describe a “Cuckquean High”, I’d say it would be experiencing the most intense moments of lust as a Cuckquean. All you can think about is your husband fucking another pussy. You want it so bad that you might even detach yourself from reality and fantasize about, or act on, actions that could potentially be threatening to your marriage.

You could be watching porn, rubbing your clit, wanting him to have new pussy so bad that you hope he’s actually cheating on you.

You could want it so bad that you push an interaction with another woman to happen before things are fully discussed, resulting in a bad outcome.

The desire to be cucked is extremely strong, but once you cum, it’s very possible that the “high” may go away, and you come back down to reality. You really don’t want your husband to cheat. You really don’t want him to fuck the pretty girl he just met without the boundaries being discussed.

It’s important for new cuckqueans to be aware of this high because some first time cuckqueans might masturbate to orgasm during the process of being cucked, and then suffer anxieties as reality sets in and realize the love of their life is pounding a prettier pussy. They are likely to become jealous.

Hi! Thank you!

Are you asking about an ideal date night for being cucked? If so, I can offer what I’ve done in the past. 😌

An ideal night would have been a cake coming over to stay the night, or weekend. I’d clear my nightstand off and set up my sleeping area on the couch so she could take up my side of the bed.

I’d be sure not to dress up too attractively. Not frumpy, but I don’t want to outshine the cake. I want her to be the star of the evening. She’d arrive and I’d welcome her, helping her get settled in. I’d prepare dinner and drinks, make sure she’s comfortable and has everything she needs.

When it comes time to head to the bedroom, I usually know in advance if I am invited in the room. It’s usually up to the cake. I’ve mostly been invited. There has also been cakes I’ve sexually interacted with on different levels or not at all, so it depends on that.

My idea date would include being allowed in the room to at least watch or serve with my mouth. Sometimes I do like short periods of not being in the room because it presses different buttons. I feel a different kind of intensity when I don’t know what they are doing and feel left out. When I am not in the room, I enjoy relaxing on the couch and edging. I prefer orgasm denial when being cucked. Orgasm denial is good, overall.

After the cake leaves, I prefer to catch up with my partner and go over the whole experience from his point of view. I like mental aftercare, which is a responsible thing in any BDSM dynamic.

That’s a great question! Thank you!

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Hi! Unfortunately, sometimes people do lose interest. 😕 I’ve been on here a long time and some people, especially those who visit here for kink fun, will visit this app when they feel a little aroused. They might find someone for a little sexy chat, but flee after their needs are met. Some even keep in touch with the play friend but sometimes disappear if other things in life demand their attention. Some things just run their course. People lose interest.

If it’s too hard to find one constant person on here for him to chat with, perhaps focus on quick play with random person. If they stick around, cool. If not, oh well. Try not to get too invested in any one person.