#quality relationships

Then calls you 12 years old and says you should still be ordering Happy Meals

“I feel sorry for you, for not knowing the true love.”

Back in the day I dated a really great guy, being with him made me so happy I can’t put it into words, and he was a wonderful devoted gentleman. He would help clean around the house, do laundry and did his best to learn how to cook. He made an effort to contribute in equal measure. Unfortunately for him, one of the best ways for me to de-stress and ease my anxiety is to clean, as in “OMG, what did you do to the house, it’s so clean” kinda clean. As well as trying out different recipes and making elaborate meals just to give my brain something else to focus on. He learned this about me and eventually learned to ask me before he did any cleaning, “Darling is it alright if I go ahead and clean this, or would you like to?”. As well as “Sweetheart I was thinking of trying out this recipe tonight or do you already have plans?”

So, you out there looking for a quality long-term relationship, never ever settle for a lazy fuck. Never ever fall for a partner’s bullsh!t of “I can’t do it, I’ve tried but I just can’t do it. Please do it for me.” or “I’ll try” and then they half @ss it and f!ck it up so bad that you want to never ask them for help again. Believe me when I’m telling you that they’re doing that on purpose, they are making themselves appear incompetent so they don’t have to do it and you will do everything for them. They are lazy and inconsiderate users of people.

Even my father, who kept a traditional household up until he retired, took up cleaning, cooking and proper house care with my mother. He wasn’t working anymore, he had no excuse not to help with chores, so he did them. Sure he had to learn some of the rules and how to do some of them but he took the time and he spent the effort to learn. He did that because it was the right thing to do, it was the fair thing to do, and he respects my mom. Even when he was still working hard hours as an on-call doctor he still tried his best to help out with house-care when he had the time.

Life is so much more fun and meaningful when we have genuine friendships to share our woes and joy. While we are solely responsible for our happiness, having a true friend is one of the life’s greatest blessings. It feels good to share good news with someone, like a new exciting job offer you just accepted. It comforts you when you confide in a friend over a failed relationship. It also hurts if…

Are My Relationships Making Me Happy and Healthy?

  TED Talks are something I’ve really enjoyed watching for a number of years now, and I’ve found many of them very informative and insightful.

One of my good friends from University posted this today, stating that she has also watched many of the talks, but found this TED talk by psychiatrist Robert Waldingerto be the best one she had seen to date. After I watched it, I understood why she said…