#qiflows

So Ladies...

Now I can't say that I have had ample amounts of experience with the opposite sex, but from my acute, very interesting select few, there is one discussion that really get's me going.

For anyone who is not aware of Lauryn Hill's Unplugged album, I suggest you go ahead NOW & take a listen to her divine art, for it is more than a source of emotive sounds and melodies, it is literally an artists expression of knowledge, wisdom and love through her own experience and observation. It's a masterpiece in all it's unrefined, true, exposing creative glory. Haven't heard or seen anything as enlightening, beautiful, timeless and honest in a hella long time; despite the series of amazing artists out there: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R2bDEreEbPE

anyway.

So, keep on reading if you can relate to having that one guy in which you invested way more than was healthy by the standards of then, now and...well, forever, or if you can relate to having that guy that despite how many ills he committed in your "committed" relationship, there was a constant necessity to remind you of how much they did (or do) for you as their main counter argument in a discussion regarding your feelings & how they've gone about to upset you, or perhaps, that one person who; in discussion with yourself, a family member or a friend about that guy- the chorus: "he isn't that bad" or "but he is so..."  followed by the verses of tears, self-doubt, confusion, anger, insecurity, frustration all sourced from his actions or words towards you, or lastly, the dude that always has things his way and when it's your way, it is only allowed because, thank heavens for you, it is aligned with his way- giving you the illusion of freedom in the relationship.

If you can't relate, then it's a relief to know that not everyone encounters this guy. you may stop here & continue to listen to Hill's album.

But for those of you who can sense a level of relation to that list above, I'll tell you something.  Now, the list can go on, you know this, I know this and in knowing this, I don't think it's really necessary that I must continue to rant about the prevalent characteristic traits that exists in such men & their actions towards women with an o-so-cute level of naivety; but a heart of gold, that can make us a prey to bugs-bunny. but rather, this is a suggestive, loving, imploring message to those women, and young girls soon to be women letting you know that life really begins at such an experience.

That experience where you encounter something that breaks you down to the core pieces of your soul- to the point where you may actually feel like a simple set of bones, muscle and blood with little flowing in and out of your mind or creative spirit; That's the exact point where the significant, most prosperous seeds may be planted in your life & you will continue to reap from that specific harvest among the many more seeds you'll occasionally plant and watch grow throughout your life. But these particular seeds, no matter what happens to the other seeds you plant, these ones will be your source of soulful, emotional, mental and physical self sufficiency; but only if you plant it first.

So, join moi on this Mr intentional journey to uncover why you should not allow your mind to be consumed by someone who probably doesn't think about you & when they do, they're just feeding off how weak they made you, how much they enjoyed knowing that someone could love them and be so distraught by their exit from your life that you crumbled etc, etc....! 

That lil paragraph right thee is an example as to why you shouldn’t let your mind be consumed by them. It’s a waste of space! (maybe a good 50 words just trying to get into their head?) 

What are my weaknesses? 

by looking into my past, the people, things, ideas and belief systems that I submit to that eventually lead to a demise of integral parts of my soul. 

Why do I submit? 

what is in my heart, my soul, my psyche that I have diverted my light from shining on in the hope that it will disappear? 

those shadows that lay untouched, unexplored, avoided.... that grow more darker as I barricade it’s perimeters from my consciousness... What lays within them?

The broken parts of my soul. 

The decapitated element of me that contains so much beauty, love, passion, creativity, hope, faith, progression, energy...WHAT LAYS THERE? why is it laying there without life breathed into it? 

why is it so hard to find the answers? 

who’s holding it back? & why? 

if I answer these questions, I know i’ll find my truth. 

I will find it. 

But i must stay focused. 

I can’t allow myself to be distracted by the things continue to breath death into those elements of my soul; that keep those shadows away from the light of my consciousness. 

What are the things that i’m running from that is keeping me from moving towards the light that casts over the land that is rightly mine?

Locker room talk!

You’re a tennis player  about to play a match & your coach comes in. She or He says: 

your opponent is weak- they have a weak backhand, poor serve... In their last match they lost many sets due to numerous amounts of unforced errors. So it’s likely you’re going to win. Play a good game, but don’t exert yourself too much because you’ve definitely got it in the bag.you have a track record that slaters this opponent. you’re going to win this tournament so don’t sweat it.. Are you ready?

In parallel universe: 

look; your opponent is driven, determined and ready to win this tournament. They’re going to make you sweat. They’re going to make you work way more harder than you ever have had to work in your life & they’ll know they’re doing it to you. In their last game, their opponent died to win at least one game talk less of a set. You’ve put up really good games lately but this one, this is going to be the test of your skill, determination, perserverence, mental, emotional and physical strength. They won’t back down until they win.... Are you Ready?

Which of the two would you rather????

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In life, when shit happens- we’re always faced with two types of problems. One’s that are easy to overcome...you’ve faced them too many times to be fazed. you’ve got them in the bag. but there are also ones that test your strength of character; they have the ability to break you down to the last fragment of your soul, your understanding of self, the last figment of your vision. Which ones do you lead your life (train) yourself to overcome? which problems do you hope to never have to face? which problems do you avoid constantly?

We shouldn’t ask for our lives to be made easier. To face hardship that we may easily overcome. sure, we will always come across hardships that are easier to overcome than others & when we overcome them, there’s a sense of pride in that. that’s fine. be proud, but in reality, there’s nothing ground breaking about doing something you have already done, or overcoming something that was barely a hardship (in the bigger picture terms of things)

What we must hope for is that we are disciplined and well equipped to overcome the hardships that seem beyond our strengths. that we live our lives in ways that serve as training towards overcoming any difficulty. that we surround ourselves with people we can talk to important things about, people that will encourage us, inspire us. To stay committed to yourself, your goals; not be enslaved by the troubles you know are soon to arise. To have a state of mind where you win and overcome every pose or threat of hardship not because they were easier, but because you persevered. 

our hardships/opponents/weaknesses/insecurities/doubts/toxic relationships in life will always grow stronger if we choose to avoid it and tend to the smaller, simpler tribulations in life. Rather than hope to get by and play easy matches, lead a mediocre life and throw games that we have a good chance at winning, we must work towards going up a level, to face the opponents that make us sweat, that make us work- all in the hope that we will one day overcome them. 

Being a champion resides in the faith that you will reach your goal no matter what. 

don’t desire to win any of your battles from the unforced errors of your opposition, but desire to win from your shear determination, discipline and development of skills. sometimes we lose. & when we do, it’s just an indication that we have some things to address- we get back into training (we look at our lives) look at who's on our side, what habits we have, food we’re eating, what issues we avoid, what books we’re reading or media/tv we’re watching, what we spend our freetime doing, our mental environment: what we say to ourselves, what we say to others, our principles, values etc... focus on managing those & many more areas where disruption arises & you’re set to overcome many of the hardships that stand between you & your goals. 

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veryyy large piece i'm working on at the moment! almost finished :D 

Oil on Canvas 60inches x 48

She is the woman that cultivates her own understanding of her world around, accepting knowledge as the foundations to her endeavors, she finds wisdom through her sense of self.

She is the woman who acknowledges her intrinsic value as a rare beauty among st natures pure phenomenons. 

By Rimike Omolekulo, 

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Thank you! and Stay Blessed, 

Work In Progress at the moment.

'She Is Human' 90cm x 65cm 

Oil on Canvas, By Rimike Omolekulo- Qiflows 

She is... The woman that finds peace in the depths of her oceanic consciousness. 

Oil on Canvas piece by Rimike Omolekulo 

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