i understand wanting to document transmasc experiences. and documenting instances where transfems are abusers is just as relevant as documenting abusers of any demographic. but if documenting transfem abusers is your goal (as you’ve stated), why make an account for documenting transmasc experiences? do you believe transmasc experiences and transfem abuse are that closely related?
again, transfem abusers exist, we know this. why is there a focus on transfems in particular, knowing that anyone can abuse a transmasc? i’m just wanting to be accurate here
i appreciate that you are actually asking a question instead of just telling me to die, so i will try to explain this as best as i can. i am tiredbut i want to be honest with you.
the reason this project focuses on transfem abusers isn’t because i think they are the only people who abuse transmascs; it’s because it is a uniquely difficult, taboo, and "touchy" subject. abuse doesn't exist in a vacuum, and when it involves someone from a vulnerable group,especially a group that is also suffering under systemic oppression, the conversation becomes almost impossible to have without people being silenced or labeled a bigot. i wanted to create a space where that specific kind of pain could be acknowledged, because there was nowhere else for it to go.
i have thought about opening this up to include cases where the abuser is also transmasculine, because i know that happens too, and survivors deserve support regardless of the abuser's demographic. honestly, i was just worried that if i did that right away, it would become an overwhelming or disproportionate part of the discourse, and the primary focus (which is the specific, often ignored reality of abuse by transfems) would get lost.
i know people are hurt, and i know the world is a dangerous place for everyone. i am not trying to villainize a group; i am just trying to make sure that the people who have been hurt by someone in that group have a place to say, "this happened to me," without being told that their experience is politically inconvenient. i hope that makes sense. i really am just trying to survive this.


















