POT: D
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So I drive out an hour and a half, have already asked this guy to compensate me for my time considering the long distance I have to commute, and he said “I don’t traditionally give an allowance on the first date...but given we have the right chemistry, it would definitely be on the table”. Now in the area I’m from, quality SDs are rare. It’s a TON of old dudes who think SA is a literal dating site for girls who want to date old men fooooor free? So the mention of an allowance gives them some degree of validation.
Anyway, I’m like, “I don’t consider that to be an allowance. I consider it to be an investment in my time and energy, so we are both showing one another we’re serious about this lifestyle.” I show up. He’s still at his tattoo appointment and asks me to join him at the shop... I awkwardly sit outside of his booth and try to charm, but the guy is in so much pain from getting a tattoo he can’t respond to or look at me. About 10 minutes go by and I’m honestly ready to go. Where am I? And you’re just expecting me to wait around? Super cute vanilla boy behind me is trying to flirt, clearly, but I can’t engage bc of the off-chance this POT is legit.
Anyway, he takes me to a next door SPORTS BAR in this sketchy off-neighborhood of Boston and proceeds to order me fried green tomatoes. Doesn’t even compensate me for travel. WTF. Waste of my time and a huge waste of my money! It’s not cheap to drive to Boston. But all in all, glad I had my first few dates today. Easing in. Going on two more today and then potentially another on Sunday.
