First and foremost, be willing to listen to and learn from the person or people you know who identify as polyamorous or non-monogamous. Most likely, they’re submerged in a process of figuring out their thoughts and desires for themselves, and could use a sympathetic ear. Non-monogamy naturally means more relationship issues and difficult situations than usual. One of the kindest acts you can do for your poly loved ones and friends is to reserve judgment and let them discuss these things on their terms.

If a person loves you and cherishes you, and wants to do right by you, then it’s not necessary to say “I forbid you to do thus-and-such” or “I require you to do thus-and-such.” All you really need to do is communicate what you need to feel taken care of, and your partner will choose to do things that take care of you, without being compelled to.

With us, there isn't a lot of room to be irrational—if it's just the two of you, you can easily get stuck in an emotional discussion which you both want to win. But when there's five of you, you're forced to reach a reasonable consensus.

Polyamory Information for Therapists

*whispers* if any of you are bisexual polyamorists go read "Adaption" and the read "Inheritance" by Malinda Lo.