Pluto in the 4H update: so unfortunately for me I have another year of Pluto transiting my 4th house when I originally thought once it moved into Aquarius I would be free.
I had a huge fight again in my home after trying to avoid one because I am tired of fighting with my family (specifically the men). Throughout this transit, I have gone to therapy and done self reflection and venting to friends to be able to notice the true power dynamics of the men in my family and how they choose to self regulate through choosing me as a target for their misery and insecurities instead of being real men and going to therapy.
I natally have Pluto in the 3rd for context. My relationship with my older brother is very toxic. For years, I have ignored and forgave the weird competing behavior from him and his actions towards antagonizing me as an outlet for his misery for the sake of family. But unfortunately, it can only be undeniable for so long. We had a previous argument that opened my eyes to how he truly felt about me in my low periods of luck. And I finally snapped this time and told him every single thing I have been holding in for years about how I felt about him. He said so many awful things to me, things that you do not expect a brother to even say to his little sister. And I am emotionally cutting ties with this individual.
Funny thing is Pluto definitely is triggering this. How I know is, it will force things to the surface that you try to suppress. He and my father are energy harvesters. They have a bad day outside and come home and take it out on the family to feel better. I tried to be mature after years of therapy, and avoid giving them reactions but they pick and pick over the course of days to achieve what they want. This was the first ever argument where I was so clear and confident in the things I was saying. It really revealed a lot.
It shows that a Pluto in the 4th transit will tear up down to really build your emotional boundaries and inner emotional confidence up. For years, since I was a child as this transit was happening, my own emotions were used against me. People (roommates, family, ppl emotionally close to me) would do mean things to me and then I would react and feel so ashamed of my emotions afterwards. Often times they would justify their behaviors and because I was insecure about myself through years of manipulation that I was dramatic or too emotional, I would be the one apologizing for my reactions to their treatment. Finally as this transit is in its last years, do I see the truth. That I deserve happiness, I deserve to be treated with respect. That my emotions and my intuition are for my survival. Less and less do I care about who I push away and if I end up lonely bc I’d rather that than be around ppl who want to treat me any type of way and want me to shut up about it.
This argument was so hurtful to me but it has been the argument that I am most confident in my own emotions and judgement and this is the blessing Pluto bestows in the midst of its curses. But please be advised you must do the inner work to achieve the benefits.
I will revisit this topic once it officially ends next year in 2026 for me.
