#planetaryelastic

Most people live off campus after their first year, it’s much less expensive. There are a lot of *cough*10*cough* ppl living in my house, but it’s a big house and the people are quiet and nice. It’s very close to campus. I don’t really use recipes. I generally just throw things together. I haven’t made anything particularly special since I moved in a week ago. (I actually need to go for another grocery shop, I didn’t end up going to the market.) If you have any good vegetarian recipes, share!:D

Ten people will certainly be interesting...

Being close is very good. Less tiring to get anywhere.

Recipes are good for knowing how to throw things together, though. Most good cooks start with recipes, learn the patterns, and then make stuff up based on what worked and what didn’t.

My favourite vegetarian thing at the moment is probably risotto. It’s pretty easy, really. Fry anything which needs frying beforehand - probably one or two cloves of garlic and one or two onions. Then put the rice in (probably 50-100 grams for just you) and coat the stuff in it. Then add white wine. Then add stock bit by bit whilst keeping everything moving. The idea is you want to soften the rice, so the secret is stirring in big strokes and making sure nothing stays still for long. You should need about one an a half to two litres of stock overall. Make sure to taste the rice to see whether it’s still a bit hard. Then add some cheese at the end. If you have peppers you want to use, those should go in at the end. That’s the basic risotto recipe. Beyond that... You should mix porcini mushrooms with your stock and then add mushrooms at the beginning if you want a mushroom risotto. Or if you want a golden risotto, mix some saffron in with the last bit of stock.

That’s mostly what I’ve got... Plus roasted vegetables are always good. My favourites are butternut squash and sweet potato.

I just moved into a house with a kitchen instead of university residence. I’m sharing many feels with you. There’s a local food market on campus tomorrow I will buy veggies from!

Ooh interesting. Why did you choose that? Are you living with anyone?

Many shared feels! =)

I relate to men and women differently, and imagine I’d feel something missing either way. I’m with a wonderful guy right now and have been for more than a year, and I don’t feel consistent sexual attraction. But I don’t think I’d feel consistent emotional attraction to a woman. Just the differences in attraction. I dunno if it’s something i will have to come to terms with.

It’s strange, huh. I get a similar thing, but the other way around. I question the sexual attraction part with women, mostly because it’s less consistent, harder to figure out and harder to get evidence for, but I’ve had long-term crushes on them since at least age 12. 

The sexual attraction part works just fine with ISTJ. It’s the emotional part that has me in ups and downs. I keep getting tempted into wondering whether it’s becoming love. The hormones from being physically close all the time don’t help. Then because it shares so many of the same qualities I start getting confused and uncomfortable because something doesn't feel right. Then we have a talk where we reiterate that we’re best friends with benefits and both totally fine with that and I feel better for a bit. The only time things start getting weird is when we wonder whether we’ve become more without realising it, or get pressured to think about it by other people. It’s just.... hard not to hope that eventually I’ll get the complete package with him. We might not even be destined to work out as a couple in the long term, but I still... just want things to make sense, because we have a great thing here. 

The thing I’ve always struggled with is that I don’t want to mislead people, or to make them miss out on something. Hell, to make me miss out on something. I always hoped there’d be a way to make it work. But I may have to live with it. 

hmm, i think i relate to this to some degree. I’m sorry you have to go through this and good luck

is everything ok? i’m facing an anger communication challenge too, best of luck to you.

Mostly, yeah. I’ve just been particularly easily upset lately for some reason. I’m not entirely certain why. I guess part of it is stress and part of it is feeling more emotionally dependent on ISTJ. I don’t know... But mostly it’s fine. Neither of us are romantically interested and we both know that. I think we just keep feeling the pressure because of the expectations of other people. It’s hard for us or others to know how to behave.

But... yeah... I’ve been wanting to think in peace more lately, and not hiding my emotions as much as I might.

It’s just a weird time...

istj’s are so easy to share space with, i find good luck with that work ethic – im trying to find mine too

They really are. They appreciate introvert time, quiet and work ethic. Even though we sometimes disagree on the kind of efficiency we value, generally speaking we have a shared preference for straightforward socialising, intellectualism, structured systems and having a sensible good time.

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It sounds lovely. ^-^ I’m excited to live off campus next year and explore Hamilton (and for warm enough weather to do that)

Aww ^^ It is.