#pixelcurious

I’m sorry that happened to you. :( That must have been painful. This is why is always so much better not to comment on such things. grilledfortune replied to your post “Random handy tip: the only acceptable time to ask about someone’s...”

And don't forget thirdhand embarrassment for the other person's party! My ex's ma did that to a waitress with the same response... Ugh, we could have died.

Yeah, it’s an incredibly awkward situation all around. My SO has been present the last few times it happened to me, which was fine. He’s pretty discreet, and at least we could go wtf about it together afterwards. infinitesimblr replied to your post “Random handy tip: the only acceptable time to ask about someone’s...”

I have been on meds that mimic pregnancy on and off for two-thirds of my life. They didn't really affect my weight until I went back on them after being off for a bit and having my first for real kid. Now I have four kids, relatives who try to sell me weight-loss products when they're in town (PASS) and no fucks left to give about what shape I am.

Ugh, your relatives sound frustrating. My fairly sudden weight gain (the last couple of years) has been med-related, too. And having had two children, the weight seems to collect mostly in that area. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through all this, but there’s a lot to be said for giving no fucks anymore. penig replied to your post “Random handy tip: the only acceptable time to ask about someone’s...”

A passing stranger once said to me: "You carry the boys high." Um, that's nice? I have a Renaissance figure - pear shaped with a high waist - so I got this even when I was skinny.

So this stranger was psychic as well as rude--they even knew the gender of your supposed baby! People need to realize that we all come in different shapes and sizes and very few have flat bellies. thelonelysimsclub replied to your post “Random handy tip: the only acceptable time to ask about someone’s...”

I get this a few times recently. I'll be out with my youngest and I get something like "wow! Having another one already! You must love babies!" - nope, I just really love pasta.

”I just love pasta.” haha! I like that. I had a friend who said it was a “food baby”. I think it’s fairly common for this to happen postpartum, which is not good because of the hormones present during that time. It can be very upsetting when the new mother is worrying about “getting her body back” (which is a whole other rant, really). annegirl13 replied to your post “Random handy tip: the only acceptable time to ask about someone’s...”

I had a preschool student who didn’t believe me when I told him I wasn’t pregnant. He kept patting my belly...It was so awkward...��

It can be incredible awkward when kids do this, because they don’t know yet to realize they’ve been rude. It’s something that should be taught to kids, I think, not to comment on people’s appearance. It can be rude and embarrassing in so many different situations. dunne-ias replied to your post “Random handy tip: the only acceptable time to ask about someone’s...”

I am pregnant-shaped too. As in, I'm overweight with most of my weight on my belly, so I really do look as if I'm going to have a baby. Does not give people the right to comment on it :(

No, it certainly does not. I feel like there’s a weird fixation on commenting on people’s bodies, especially once you’re considered overweight. immdreamz replied to your post “Random handy tip: the only acceptable time to ask about someone’s...”

people are so rude sometimes intentionally or not. I wouldn't even think to ask something like that from a person.

That’s a good thing. :) I hope more people get the memo on this. pixelcurious replied to your post “Random handy tip: the only acceptable time to ask about someone’s...”

Even if it's super obvious that someone's pregnant, it's rude to bring it up before they do. Pregnant people get treated like public property all too often. And if you're not sure, that's even worse—you're potentially going to make someone with tummy chub feel bad. ��

Yeah, exactly. Even if they are pregnant, they might not want to talk about it. That’s a good point. And it’s bad to make the assumption. katatty-main replied to your post “Random handy tip: the only acceptable time to ask about someone’s...”

oh yeah, someone asked me that once and i still get upset thinking about it... what do you even say to that - "no, thanks, im just fat"?

Yeah, “Nope, just fat”! haha. I’ve tend to say simply “No, I’m not” or “No, I’ve just gained some weight.” Pretty straightforward. But a friend of mine used to say they were having a “food baby”, haha. If you enjoyed making people uncomfortable, I’m sure you could send it right back in this situation. soniabigcheese replied to your post “Random handy tip: the only acceptable time to ask about someone’s...”

I made that mistake a couple of years ago with a friend of mine. I hadn't seen her in ages and the first thing I did was ask if she was pregnant. The look on her face was priceless. I immediately apologized. Oops.

It can be an easy mistake to make, I think. The best you can do is apologize, and not make too big of a deal out of it. dezzydoesthings replied to your post “Random handy tip: the only acceptable time to ask about someone’s...”

I'm fat but I have huge weapons of mass destruction tits that hide it. So you can't even see my stomach, just ahh their coming at me

Yeah, it’s all about proportion and shape, I guess. I do have some bust now compared with most of my life where I was much smaller-breasted, but the belly is still much more prominent. charmandersims replied to your post “Random handy tip: the only acceptable time to ask about someone’s...”

I get it a lot from the kids at the school where I work. It's fine if they're five, but when their parents join in I have to be all like 'actually no' - it's just awkward for everyone

@doka-chan

I'm heartbroken right now... Vinnie don't deserve this. Poor good soul. I know it may be a speech to hide their relashionship, but... Damn !

That’s exactly what Georgina was trying to do, but her methods were misguided and extremely dubious. Georgina has a history of taking the easy way out when it comes to dealing with her mother, and this time it really came back to bite her.

@shhhushhh

Honestly, I despise Georgina more than Bunty now. Because at least Bunty was honest. She even mentioned how Vinnie is interested in her happiness and all. And after all this Georgina couldn't find the courage in her. Probably because she is entirely lacking it. I don't remember you showing under what arrangements and conditions Vinnie came to AP, but I feel they most were matters of the heart.

Vinnie came to AP because he always wanted to live and work in the country, but also because he had fallen hard for Georgina. He saw it as a golden opportunity and he grabbed it. Vinnie is someone who truly  subscribes to the motto ‘carpe diem’.

@shhhushhh

And it's unfair and very selfish to drag someone's out of their life (it occurs Vinnie was quite valued at his prev workplaces) just to make them a part of yours when you don't have the amenities to keep them. AND AT THE SAME TIME to have the guts to try to destroy the relationship of someone else!!! (referring to Joanita). Anita shoud have reached her with that pool cue!

Yes, Georgina is in a lot of ways a weak and amoral person, who paints herself both as a victim and a martyr. But I have high hopes she can redeem herself!

@pixelcurious

In her own way, Georgina is just as obsessed with maintaining appearances as Bunty is. Vinnie deserves better.

She definitely is, great observation. But her motivation may be not be quite as shallow or self-serving...I see her as being motivated mainly by fear, and cowardice.

@mysimsloveaffair

Dang Georgina didn't have to be that convincing, did she? Poor Vinnie. He might actually leave after hearing something like that *heart broken for him*. By the way...the writing is so good that I didn't even notice the hoodie 😄

@ivorycrayon

So that’s what you meant when you said it wasn’t Bunty you were worried about Re: Vinnie. Sigh, this scene breaks my heart - specially since she just said she loved him a few hours ago. What sort of love is this? I also don’t understand why it even matters to her if Bunty has a problem with it - just that she would threaten to drink if she felt Georgie’s marriage was jeopardised?

Georgina is worried that Bunty will turn to drink, yes, but she’s equally worried about facing certain home truths about her own marriage, a rapidly crumbling edifice. She would prefer to distract herself with other men than examine the real reasons behind the failure of her relationship with her husband. But her feelings for Vinnie may finally compel her to face her demons!

@dandylion240

For all of Roy's faults he at least knows what he wants. Georgina could learn something from that. Instead she desperately tries to maintain an appearance that isn't true. Poor Vinnie! He doesn't deserve this.

You’re right! Georgina has finally started to realise that too ...who knew that Roy would one day turn out to be a good role model!!

@bordelinski

Sorry, I don’t feel sorry for Vinnie, I really can’t. If he truly understood Georgina- her lack of courage, the controlling fear she has of her mother, her insecurities, he would protect her the right way. That means playing dumb about their relationship until Georgina was ready to announce it, waiting for her to find the courage she needed to confess all and move on. But she’s still married and never offered to divorce what’s his name therefore relationship is kept secret!

But Vinnie totally understood that Georgina wanted the relationship kept secret and accepted it...he was genuinely concerned here when Georgina told him that Roy had guessed the true nature of their relationship. He wasn’t upset about her lying to Bunty- he was upset about the vicious things she said to Bunty about him, which to his ears sounded thoroughly convincing. She made him feel worthless. She made him feel like scum.

@stsciurussimblr

Poor Vinnie! 😕

@thewynd

Oh, Georgina, you truly don't deserve him, do you...

@sunset-melody

There's denial and then there's this. It's not "of course not mother, i'm loyal to my husband", its "omg have you seen him? You think I~ would lower myself to that. He has feelings for me, of I feel nothing for him." Really sad Georgina. I hope Vinnie goes back.

Exactly...she was too convincing. I was mortified for poor Vinnie’s sake! 

@twinsimskeletons

Honestly this is the greatest betrayal you've ever given me. HIS WEE FACE!

@nocturnalazure

Well, I remember what you said about Vinnie being a man of honor... I know Georgina is most certainly lying to get rid of her mother, but still... even if he might not have believed what she just said, the mere fact that she refuses to openly acknowledge her relationship with him must finish him off. I am nothing but tears.

@princessdejamars

she's her mother's daughter and I don't see her changing her tune....she will grow old and bitter blaming everyone (esp Roy) for her misery when its her own dang fault

But maybe a leopard can change its spots...;=)

@ninjaofthepurplethings

Awwwww Vinnie!!! ;____; My heart hurts D:

@ice-creamforbreakfast

You're breaking my heart! This level of hurt must mean that Joel and Anita are safe for a while though....I hope.

Yeah they’re safe at least till Georgina’s husband comes knocking, convinced that it’s Jojo that Georgina is fucking behind his back...

@mochasims

wow, she's still going... poor vinnie.

@phyresimblr

It is heartbreaking to see Georgina destroy her own happiness. I hope Vinnie loves her enough to understand why she said what she did and comes back to her - teach her how to be a better person that is true to herself...

This was such a kind, lovely, forgiving sentiment it made me cry all over again...bless you.

@wannabecatwriter

She really messed everything up.

@gaiahypothesims

Georgina... tsk.. spineless.

@ktarsims

*sigh* I can’t hate on Georgie for this. She’s struggling with not wanting to push her mother back to drinking, and not having the courage to take that giant risk like Roy. And while I feel for Vinnie, he obviously doesn’t understand her as well as he needs to if this is surprising to him.

She was so convincing though, as if she was giving voice to things that had been in her head all along...I think that’s what shocked him the most.

@parystrange

She's disgusting.

@igglemouse

No...you can't do Vinnie like this T_T not like this!

@sweetnovember77

Bunty is actually capable of showing sensitive insight. I can appreciate that about her.

@owly-sims

I'm so heartbroken for Vinnie. He's a pure soul, and doesn't deserve this. I'm absolutely furious at Georgie!

@dandylion240

Can't say that I blame Vinnie for leaving

@shhhushhh

It's tremendously sad, because you've written it loke that ❤ But for no other reason. Also, what Roy did was mean and he defenitely deserves some kind of come back. But Georgina came with her response so quick, as if she was prepared with a ready speech for such occasions. And she has never struck me as a good improviser.

Yes, the readiness with which she said all those horrible things was what was most shocking to Vinnie. It was as if they were just sitting on the tip of her tongue.

@thewynd

I guess caving in to her mother's standards was of more importance than Vinnie. How shallow you are, Georgina.

But can she now see the error of her ways? Watch this space!!

@108sims

Poor Vinnie. I would leave too.

@winifredwoogie​

Poor Vinnie deserves better than Georgie. I'd leave too.

@princessdejamars

can't say as I blame him for leaving....a stand up guy needs a stand gal and Georgie just aint that gal..

@holleyberry

Your inability to stand up to your mother is ruining your life Georgie.

And her inability to face certain home truths, like the fact her marriage is just as much a farce as Roy’s!

@timeparadoxsims

Poor Vinnie :( He deserved better. And man, it's getting hard to feel bad for Georgina. I can't help but feel that if she really loved Vinnie, she wouldn't have been able to say those words with such great ease. Maybe he, just like Joel, was just an excuse for her to avoid dealing with her real problems, like her failing marriage or her relationship with her mother.

Brilliant! Yes!!! A million times this!!

@alittledaylight

George needs to grow some balls 🤷🏼‍♀️

@parystrange

I don't feel bad for her. I am so disgusted with her right now. She's showing that she is still a horrible, shallow coward who takes and takes but clearly gives nothing. She's treated poor, sweet Vinnie like a dirty secret. She doesn't know the meaning of the word "love". I hope she runs into Anita in a knife shop.

@miraakles

I feel like i'm the only person who feels bad for Georgina & Vinnie. It's easy to look in from the outside and say she's horrible and awful, but the stress of an alcoholic is a lot to handle.... THEY BETTER GET BACK TOGEEETTHHHEEERR TREASON PLEASE. YOU ALREADY BROKE MY SONIA + ROY :(

@aminovas

Georgina may not be an alcoholic technically, but she has all the psychological symptoms of one! She needs a few years (or decades) of Codependency Anonymous! (is there such a thing?)

I see her more as just your common, garden-variety, doubt-plagued spineless coward, (which I can relate to very well!) but the co-dependency angle is also very interesting! Thank you for the thoughtful reply. I must do some research into that.

@simlicious

nooo, clearly Georgina only wants to protect her relationship with Vinnie and her happiness. She deserves it! And having Bunty as a mother, I can totally understand her lies. I just hope that Vinnie will give her a chance to explain and will understand why she did it. This is still so new. Georgie needs time. Bunty might rebound with two divorces in a row. We can't forget that Roy took a long time to finally quit his marriage. So everyone needs to cut Georgie some slack.

@simlicious

but also, seeing Vinnie cry breaks my heart. Georgie should find him quickly and tell him what he means to her. I can't bear another relationship breakup! *cries*

@sweetnovember77

Abandonment is one hell of a sinking ship. Hopefully, Georgina learns something from this.