#pikamod

this 10000%. it reminds me of bigoted fratboys who think offensive humor and slurs are the funniest thing in the world and anyone who is like "hey man that's not cool" is a dumb hypersensitive snowflake. and anytime you confront them about it they're like UMMM i'm not gonna watch my tongue around you, this is just how i am!! you just can't handle women not walking on eggshells!!! women saying slurs and offensive jokes is awesome for feminism actually!!!!!

and normal sane radfems are there like..........

sure girlie. whatever you say. so predictable

controversially, i believe you're right!

lesbians are not somehow inherently smarter feminists.

in fact, sometimes not being opposite-sex attracted can give us many blind spots to the het/bi experience, and we can paint them all with a very wide brush and puff our chests and say that we just Know Better, and we are the ppl who should be loudest about issues that actually don't affect us directly at all, such as the 4b movement.

we are dykes, and while things like 4b/abortions affects us laterally, as anything feminism-related does, we are not denying ourselves a sex/dating life the way het/bi women are right now. we do not lose out on sex or a happily ever after the way they do, let's be real here. THEY are the ones most impacted, and it's okay to say it. it doesn't mean we don't have our own struggles. same as abortion/etc issues - yes, assault/abuse is common in all female folks, and lesbians are targeted in uniquely awful ways that NEED to be talked about more, and are often downplayed by het/bi feminists, but let's be real... if we are not having dick appointments left and right, we are waayyyy less impacted by abortion/etc rights and we usually don't really know the day-to-day struggle of someone wanting sex and/or romantic love but having to face very high risks. it must be a super complex, twisted feeling inside oneself, having to deny smth so very human because the fucked up part of the male community has harmed female people so badly for millenia, to the point where het/bi women need to deny themselves a love/sex life out of safety and to prove a point to the patriarchy. like that is a fucking TRAGEDY. and 4b queens are brave as hell for doing so, and my heart also goes out to them because... they shouldn't have to. they really shouldn't have to.

and i would be a hypocrite if i said "c'mon just give up dick" and other dehumanizing, short-sighted phrases i see thrown around, because...

a) i would never give up pussy or romantic love, and i 10000% know i'm too much of a romantic to remove myself from the dating world even if i had been born het/bi, i would still risk it and take certain precautions, even if many exclusionists would say it's not enough and if i get hurt it's all my fault and they get to say "i told you so" and use me as a warning tale to stop other women from non-homosexual dating/sex... same as what women get when they go out at night alone and get hurt. [shitty feminist voice] what did you think would happen dumbass?! never do it again!!!

and b) i personally think there's value in willing women having their feminist-raised kids growing up in our modern patriarchal society, instead of only conservative parents raising the next generations. yes, it's always a gamble, and little boys can become terrors. but imo, for those who know they will have kids regardless, i'm glad when they raise those kids with strong feminist values however they can. you can see it as harm reduction for the future girls growing up. many feminists believe harm reduction is bullshit and useless, but i don't.

lesbians, sometimes, use our homodyke woke points in ways that can get pretty childish and unnecessary. often, we're talked down to, shamed, and face lesbophobia in even feminist spaces, especially libfem spaces; but other times, we can be incredibly short-sighted due to not having het/bi experiences, and it can actually end up really harming other women in ways we just don't hear about, or aren't willing to hear about. it's okay to focus your feminism 1000% on lesbians & febfems and be a strict exclusionist. i also see value in different branches of radical feminism focusing on different issues. and, as a feminist, i seek to gain as much knowledge as possible about diverse female povs.

i take my hat off to all my 4b sisters, and i promise to be a good ally to those most affected by abortion rights & those involved in the dating world who put themselves most at risk for assault/abuse, all for the sake of love and a good sex life. that takes guts. some ppl may call them selfish and naive, and say that if they get hurt it's all their fault, but personally i will not let go of their hand. and i hope they can help fix things from the inside too, in their own way.

lesbians are not immune from internalized misogyny.

lesbians are not immune to stupid catty mean girls shit.