#personal ask

Story Reason: Writing characters who love and cherish each other, regardless of their relationship, is emotionally healing.

Philosophical Reason: I fought, bickered and argued with my brother and sister a lot as a child. Oftentimes dismissed or even encouraged by our parents.

In both cases, that had catastrophic consequences. My brother turned out to be a self-absorbed douchebag, my sister became controlling and abusive, and I became someone who was starved of care and affection. My attempts to repair these relationships over the last 15 years have been colossal failures.

I firmly believe that had there been less fighting and more genuine and sincere affection then 90% of what happened in that house would not have happened. I do not believe that the "squabbling and baseline level of permanent contempt" that people push as the norm is healthy and I do not believe it should be encouraged.

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Tell them that good-aligned characters can be highly abusive and their smooth brains won't ever get it. Because for them abuse is written in books and is "obvious", "evil=abusive" with no exceptions. I bet those are the same people who would blame victims of abuse like it's nothing, because "how they were unable to see it coming from the first signs".

I constantly see AA fans creating and playing fitting villanious evil Tavs/DU to create a wholesome evil loving couple with AA. While what do we see going on in UA fandom: - Denying his past as corrupted magistrate - Ignoring his genuine liking for violence and bloodshed shown throughout the game in literally every act and outcome (an for such actions as betrayal, both AA and UA approve betrayal of Dame Aylin) - Never seeing him having zero morality when it's something fun for him, killing and death again included - Claiming that the game is utterly broken and his approvals are as well, simply because it's yet again not quite well fitting into their delusional fantasies, so it needs to be "fixed" - Liking only a third part of canon game Astarion's content at best, cherry picking what suits their narrative best and throwing out everything else into the void - Never showing on public spawns/UA lines that show him as the same Astarion we always knew: words about continuing killing people with a smile on his face, death threatening Tav/DU if they break up with him, saying he would create a palace in Underdark while ruling the other spawns - Getting hysteria from WoTC making of Astarion: his MTG cards, his illustration on cover of "Book of Hungers" - and denying that this is canon, because it doesn't fit their "good pookie Astarion-uwu" picture, so it's also not canon for them

And that's only what I can remember.

But then again, when they are so highly against AA, his fans and his canon image, they also: - Steal his lines (Aeterna Amantes and every else) - Steal his bat-form (canonically spawns never possess any shapeshift skills, everything else is a HC) - Steal his iconic AA outfit - Then being jealous saying that UA too can be a healthy dom - Literally just take everything from AA And whenever this happens they suddenly forget about how terrible, purely evil and abusive AA is. If hating AA, why behaving like AA fan😁

Ah yes, equating everything of his such uncomfortable traits that aren't fitting into his goodie-good image to "trauma response" is so rich, so smart and deep, I'm drowning in this level of media literacy /s

I also saw a couple of times that they do really put it like "evil character=bad person" and then having mental breakdown over "people not wanting him to become a better person". I don't even know how to comment this lmao, it's just a childish fairy-tale level of comprehension.

Such a bitch!

I believe that I have seen that comic panel before. But didn't she puke because after he took off his mask, she realized that he was like 10 years younger than her? Like Peter was 16/still in high school or something in that comic? And she had already been flirting with and made out with him by that point?

Chomuuuu my love a perfect example of a hot take is “pineapple belongs on pizza” it's usually a strong opinion on something that people either agree or disagree with and it usually opens debate and discussion.

I'm loving it because I usually see people attacking other people because of certain opinions or hcs without really giving a reason as to why they think that way and I think if we talked about that more there would be less hostility if we just listen to why people think the way they do and just simply be like “okay that's not for me but I can respect your thought process.”

It's particularly helpful if the people participating are mature about it too. I'm never going to get upset because somebody doesn't share the same hcs as I do because I'm very well aware that everybody is different and everybody is entitled to what they like and their own opinions so I don't take hcs too seriously cus for me it's simply a mix of you like what you like and it's okay if other people don't like what you like that doesn't mean they're a horrible person lmao.

I've seen certain people get way too passive aggressive or just flat out aggressive about certain hc that other people have. Like there's no right or wrong way to hc something like we all should just calm down.

But with that being said if something is problematic it should be called out but in an educational way rather than in an extremely aggressive way or in a passive aggressive way.