By: Savannah Edwards
Published: Oct 5, 2022
Letâs get this out of the way: Culture doesnât come from skin color. Culture is a way of life, it comes from your environment. Just because two people have the same skin color doesnât mean they come from the same place. A black person in a low income neighborhood of a major city has very little in common with a black person who was born and raised in an upper-middle class suburb. My neighbor and I are both black but we have different cultures. I was born and raised in the Carolinas and he was born and raised here in New Orleans. Weâre not the same people. We donât share the same customs or traditions, and we speak two different versions of Southern American English. According to the New York Times, eating black-eyed-peas on New Years is a black American ritual, but Iâve never heard of that. I canât remember the last time I ate black-eyed-peas on purpose.
Culture is not stagnant. Culture moves and changes and grows over time. Meanings and rituals change as people and time changes. Cultures blend with other cultures to create new ones. Italian-American culture is exactly what the name suggests, a blend of Italian and American cultures with its own foods and customs and Italian dialect. French Louisiana was owned by both the French and Spanish, but much of the Spanish influence is gone and whatâs survived is very much French, along with influences from Italian, Irish, and Haitian immigrants and African slaves.
Culture never stays put, itâs as mobile as people, so Iâm not sure why young people today seem to think they can âgate keepâ that which is easily accessible to everyone. We live in a multicultural society that has a heavy influence on the world and social media acts as a delivery system. Itâs no wonder parts of China and Korea have been heavily influenced by what black Americans are doing in the states: music, fashion, hair, etc. This includes language. The never ending argument on TikTok is the use of AAVE (African American Vernacular English) by white creators. AAVE, or Ebonics as we called it growing up, isnât a language. There are no rules and there isnât a proper or right way to speak it. Itâs a dialect closely related to the southern dialect that is mostly used by southern black Americans in urban settings and black Canadians. I donât use AAVE. Why? Because language comes from hearing, and no one in my immediate family who would have had an influence on my language development uses AAVE, so my vernacular is Carolina southern.
This Dr. Phil segment on cultural appropriation highlights the braids debate, another hot button social media issue. Is it cultural appropriation for white women to wear braids? Is it offensive to black people for white people to wear braids? Let me be very clear: Black American women didnât invent box braids.
Box braids is one of many African Hair-braiding styles, keyword being: African. In certain places in Africa, hair weaving has cultural significance, but in the United States it does not. Itâs just a hairstyle; itâs just fashion. It being a protective hairstyle doesnât make it culturally significant for black Americans because braids in general, regardless of your skin color, is a protective hairstyle. African Hair Braiding didnât become mainstream in the United States until the 90s, and it has been shared with women all over the world by African women. Russia has its own market for African Hair Braiding (search: afrokosiki orĐŃŃĐŸĐșĐŸŃŃ). Box braids went out of style in the early 2000s and you would get made fun of for getting anything thicker than micros. Now box braids are back in style and young black women are under the impression this hairstyle belongs to us. Would this be considered cultural appropriation.
Should white people get their hair braided? Thatâs between you and your hairdresser. If you go to Africa and want your hair braided, they wonât deny you service because youâre white. They will take your money just like anyone else except theyâll charge you less and give you better results. Simply getting your hair done isnât cultural appropriation.
These claims of appropriation come from people who donât understand how culture works or havenât experienced or allowed themselves to experience a culture different than their own. There are three concepts people get confused: appropriation, appreciation, and acculturation.
Appropriation:
Simply put, cultural appropriation âtakes place when members of a majority group adopt cultural elements of a minority group in an exploitative, disrespectful, or stereotypical way.â Drunk frat boys wearing sombreros on Cinco de Mayo or Black Americans wearing dashikis and claiming it as their own culture could be considered cultural appropriation, but a young woman wearing a Chinese dress she found at a thrift store to prom is not. Wearing a hairstyle because you like the way it looks on your is not appropriation.
Appreciation:
This is self-explanatory. Appreciating or participating in another culture isnât a bad thing. If you go to markets in other countries some people might offer to dress you in their traditional clothes or style your hair. Buying art and other cultural items and displaying in their home because you find them beautiful is appreciation. I have two dreamcatchers. One was a gift from my aunt who bought it when she was on a business trip several years ago and the second is one I bought at Marie Leveauâs on Bourbon Street. This store sells all kinds of things related to catholicism, voodoo, Santeria, and Native American culture. Appreciating the beauty and history of another culture is normal. Emotionally connecting with a culture different than your own is normal.
Acculturation:
Acculturation is when you acquire or adopt a second, usually more dominant culture, due to a shift or change in your environment. When you get married, whether you and your spouse are of the same race or not, you will experience acculturation because youâre having to adapt to a new culture. Ask any immigrant what itâs like to adapt to American culture while holding onto pieces of their âbirthâ culture. Moving to New Orleans from Charlotte, Iâve had to adopt a new culture. Everyone will experience this at least once: an eighteen-year-old going to college, moving to a new city, getting married, converting to a new religion, starting a new job, etc.
If your personal culture doesnât shift, change, or do a complete 180 at some point in your life then youâre not growing.
Black women have, and some still do, face discrimination due to their natural hair, but should this be a reason to stop others from wearing these hairstyles? No. What does Susie Q getting her hair braided by her best friend or Little Lauren in the Bahamas getting her hair cornrowed by a local have to do with Miss Pam trying to get a job? How do these things relate to one another? It would seem to me the best way to move forward is to bring these hairstyles into the mainstream and make them normal, but some people want a reason to remain a victim. As black women, weâre told from the time weâre very little that our hair is our crown so it makes sense that some people want to keep a victim mentality on their shoulders. Unless youâre doing something wrong, let people be offended. Their emotions, triggers, and feelings are not your responsibility. Donât let someone elseâs ignorance stop you from experiencing the world and all it has to offer.
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