If, on a regular basis, you're blaming other people for how bad you feel, you are then giving them control of the power that can actually cause you to feel better. The changes in the outer circumstances that you want, start first in how you are feeling within. It might feel good, in the moment, to pass the buck in regards to responsibility, and it can be helpful, but if done too much it can also keep you from making the progress that you may be needing in the moment. In that case, your happiness is solely dependent on what they say or do - what they've said or done - or what they have or haven't done. All of which you have little to no control over. Remember, perception is typically reality. Remember, what you have a lot of control over is how you respond to reality and how you choose to feel from within first and foremost.