it's not that I don't think "do it scared" can ever be a positive phrase, like if it's something like. "Oh, I'm scared to go to this party" but the "scared" is. nervous about the uncertainty of something, like not knowing people and things like that. That can be good.
Like, you don't have to wait for the ideal time to start doing things that could make your life better
but "ignore the fear and just do it anyway" is such an unstoppable and inescapable message, but on a basic level it is not true that fear automatically goes away when you expose yourself to the feared thing. Fear goes away when you expose yourself to the feared thing by your own choice and free will (not forced, coerced, or out of resignation because it seems like the only option), and when the experience feels safe enough that it can be a positive or at least neutral experience and help heal the fear.
people are very attracted to the idea that others have problems because they are not strong enough or too weak-willed or sensitive. Many people seem to like to believe that everyone's problems come from unwillingness to "do the hard thing."
As someone who viciously hated herself from very early childhood for being not strong enough, too weak-willed, and too sensitive, I have found that the method of doing things in spite of their "hardness" through sheer stubbornness and pain tolerance only created minimal progress.
"Pushing through" is useful in some circumstances, but using it as a primary tool for facing challenges results in expending enormous energy and difficulty for very slow results.
Examining why the thing is hard, and coming up with ways to make it easier, will take you six steps forward for every single step you take by "pushing through" without self-understanding.
