My husband left me 1 week ago today because my PCOS has made me completely infertile. We've been together for a total of 10 years, married for 3. He promised and reassured me after every appointment that if the results for fertility were negative we would just adopt. Today I found out he is to be a father to another woman's baby. So if he left me a week ago, and she's already two months pregnant... Where does that leave me? Broken.
My comment: sounds like your husband is just the kind of man who cheats and leaves no matter if you have PCOS or not. He cheated, got someone pregnant, and then I guess wanted to make it right by supporting that woman and child. It doesn't sound to me like he cared about you getting left behind - with PCOS or without. I may be wrong or out of line here, but that's what it sound to me like - that he was told he was gonna be a dad, and he made a decision. This sounds more like just another case like that and your PCOS isn't important in this equation and he'd left even if you could have kids easily - he just made his mistake and then tried to correct it his way. As it seems men suddenly feel resposibility if they learn they've created an offspring. But since I do not know the whole story, I am probably making wild guesses.Ā
EDIT: I am not saying he was right, I'm just saying that men like him think they're doing "the right thing". I'm just not a person who goes on calling people jerks without knowing the whole story. And it is possible the other woman didn't know he was married, so she is also "entitled" to have support from the "daddy", and every kid deserves 2 parents, so in situations like this when things like this have alerady happened, there are no easy solutions - someone is gonna suffer anyway, no matter what the man does - sleeping around never ends well, but if that's already happened, then people getting hurt can't be avoided. And in this "man's" case it seems he's just a "jerk" - whether the confession maker had PCOS or not. He would have cheated and left anyway, meaning he'd been a "jerk" no matter how lovely the woman sending the confession is. Men who act like this, act like this no matter how nice their wives are. I just wanted to say I don't believe he left because she has PCOS. I believe he's just a "jerk". And "jerks" Ā like that always become "responsible" Ā when they accidentally get someone pregnant. It's like a textbook example of how they are "good" Ā suddenly, Ā because they don't leave their kid, when they don't consider the other side of the coin - that they're leaving their wives/partners of long time. If this opinion wasn't understood from my original comment, I'm sorry, but this is what I meant, and this is my opinion that's not shared by all I believe. But that does not mean that the man acted correctly. Though his mistake was cheating, and then hurting the person/his wife, who sent in this confession (choosing to hurt her instead of the other woman, when staying faithful would have easily avoided the situation where one of the women has to suffer, and supporting one doesn't make it right that he hurt the other one, so men should learn to keep in in the pants, and if they're not men enough to stay supportive of their women in health AND in sickness, then they should be men enough to admit it, not just go look for "comfort/whatever" elsewhere. Those kind of men are usually not worthy of the ladies they are leaving.)
