#ourmistakes

The wrong mediation, will often result in a falling out, through a lack of cooperation and communication.

Cooperation and communication are both tools that if managed correctly can bring about positive results. Perhaps we need to think about how we could have done things better. We can either work to change the things that need to be changed, otherwise we’ll choose to ignore those things. That won’t help us further down the line of course.

Perhaps, therefore if we do something wrong we should work to put it right. Mistakes happen. Things go wrong, that’s life, but how we correct our mistakes is the difference between patching things up and walking away. If the shoe were on the other foot, others would be looking to us to put things right, therefore we must do the same for others.

Looking at the bigger picture of course, allows us to understand why what happened, happened; regardless of who was at fault. It’s not about who's at fault, it's about being honest and correcting our mistake.

Whatever the problem, through mediation an understanding can always be reached but we’ve got to want to put things right. It’s sad when we don’t and instead choose to walk away.

Whatever the issue, our personal lives should never interfere with doing what’s right. We should want to do what’s right.

Starting from a very young age, we develop an identity that is made up of our beliefs and how we view ourselves.

But where we fail to own or admit to our mistakes, we end up pointing the finger at ourselves, particularly as people begin to see through our behaviour. Instead we shirk responsibility for the very things we’re supposed to be responsible for.

Perhaps it’s got something to do with there being less accountability in society and the fact that we’ve become less accountable; being less accountable means we’re less likely to own up to our mistakes, or how we really are. We never seem to be able to admit how we are and that perhaps we could have handled things better.

A lot of how we are stems from childhood that everything we learn in childhood, we take into our adult lives. When a child fails to say sorry, it’s because their bad behaviour is often being ignored, or they’re not being brought to task by their parents.

As each generation passes, the disciplines that help us own up to how we are, get watered down. The more at peace we are, the more likely we are to own up to our responsibilities and admit that yes perhaps we made a mistake.

Life would certainly be much sweeter and easier if we did. There would certainly be less room for the mandatory disagreements, fallouts and those inevitable pregnant pauses over the mistakes we make that we don’t own up to.