#oroz

Because I've seen a person say Daniel Radcliffe is only performatively on the side of transpeople 'cause it's good for the media and he's actually racist and a white supremacist.

Dear children, let me tell you something.

Being anti-immigration and voting for Brexit makes you incredibly stupid and bigoted, but it doesn't make you a white supremacist. It doesn't make the average citizen a Nazi or a fascist. People really love to throw words around these days. It's not good, you're lessening their meaning and impact when you start calling your neighbour's dog a Nazi.

I hate this "holier than thou" attitude of people who act like they are Jesus fkn Christ and all their friends are Saints. Like they don't know anyone "problematic." And it's "interesting" that he is honest? Why should he hide this?

A very big part of growing up is learning to get along with different kinds of people and that nobody is ever going to share your beliefs 100%. It's impossible, and you won't be able to change everyone's mind either.

It's important to have topics on which you won't budge. I won't associate in the slightest with i.e. hardcore homophobes, transphobes. Not the kind of people who think joking about it is funny, I can talk to those and change something, but the ones that actually don't believe in human rights.

But on many other things you will have to realize that it's not that simple. You can try to create and only live in that bubble, but I doubt that's healthy. You have to learn to engage in constructive conversations, talk to people who don't have the same views without getting hurt or angry and many times you will just have to say "Agree to disagree."

You have to accept that many people are still reactionary and easily swayed into believing that a minority is the cause for all their problems and anger. Not the broken system, the rich or the government. Everyone hates it when they hear "accept it," like it equals giving up and not doing anything about it, but it's simply the first step you have to take before you can do something about it.

Let's say you do wish to change people's minds. It's highly unlikely you're gonna get a complete stranger to do so by arguing with them over the internet or being antagonistic towards them from the get-go. Most of the people you engage with in these arguments already have their minds set onto hating you. There's no talking to them. Waste of time.

Trust me, the world won't be a worse place if you stop doing that, but your mental health will be much better. Don't harass anyone. Walk away. Report, block and move on.

But people in your friend circle who haven't fully made up their mind or are questioning something due to recent events? They're open to other views and opinions and if you can just casually talk about it, over a coffee, during a walk, nestled between other topics, your chances of "winning them over" or at the very least "planting a seed" are very high. This is why being friends with people who might not be "perfectly unproblematic" is important and valuable.