So, I’m 23 years old and a virgin, it doesn’t define me, but it is some part of me. I was never saving my virginity and I was never super eager to loose it. I wasn’t waiting for “the right guy” but also never wanted to just get it over with.
I guess I’m very shy when it comes to meeting new people. I did overcome that a little bit on my 3 months southeast Asia backpacking trip, where at some point you have to talk to strangers and it’s really easy in the backpacking community. It was never that easy for me anywhere else though.
In school, I never wanted to date anyone in my class or even in my school. I didn’t like the idea of the whole school talking about it and I was really self-conscious about myself back in the day, so I thought no one would actually like me in a “romantic” way. I also never thought about dating any friends in my established friend groups as I thought it would be weird.
I feel like I am very bro-ish with guys and I don’t know how to flirt. So even on the occasional meeting a new person, I would not be able to show my interest in a charming way and I would have never been able to say it directly. Although there was actually never someone I had strong feelings about. There would be an occasional “He’s cute”, but nothing more than that.
