Thanks for those who reached out regarding the situation with the art re-upload. Rest assured that @mecha-milkers has contacted me and has fully apologised, given a very good explanation as to why the mistake happened. We’ve spoken enough that I’m satisfied that the issue won’t happen again. It was a genuine mistake on their part, and they have removed the post.

Please, if we can move on from this and keep things civilised toward them now, I’d really appreciate it. I was initially angry myself, but there’s no more reason to be, now I’ve received an apology and explanation. I would kindly ask that this user be spared from any harassment, we are all human and life is to live and learn.

We should all not engage in harassment. And there shouldn’t be exceptions to that. It shouldn’t be “We don’t harass unless someone writes Omegaverse RPF” or “We don’t harass unless we can make unsubstantiated claims that our target engaged in harassment first”. Exceptions to being anti-harassment shouldn’t be “if someone calls themselves an Anti” or “if we call them an Anti” or “if they’re a pro-shipper” or “if they write smut about Jason Todd” or “if they like Hannigram” or “if they like Izzy Hands” or “if they like Stede Bonnet with a beard” or “if they vague posted about someone” or “if they wrote critically about a video game on their own Twitter” or “if we think their tweet about an anime is an attack on Taylor Swift” or anything else!

I have to work on a group project via zoom/shared docs and am kinda stress out..and that's okay!!!!! I just have to relax, focus and not overthink everything I do.

You come in as a new person. Maybe you’re a bit shy. You don’t know anyone yet and you haven’t learned the social dynamics of that group. Everyone’s quite nice because they don’t know you either. You’re a fresh slate and so are they and you both kinda want to see each other’s best sides. But then after time people get comfy and you start seeing who they really are.

And then almost inevitably one day you hit up your chat or whatever and ahh, there it is, someone’s posted a racist meme and three other people are laughing at it. You’ve found them. Maybe they’re making fun of fat people or saying that people who are into BDSM are disgusting freaks. Perhaps they’re sharing alt right nazi videos. Whatever it is, you now have the decision to make: do you complain? Do you say something? Talk to the community leaders privately or call them out in public right there and then? Do you say nothing, sweep it under the rug? Tell yourself to pick your battles? Bottle it all up inside and just keep ignoring this content because you don’t want to deal with that level of fallout that can potentially happen if you speak up?

I’m so tired of this. It’s nearly every group - I have so few left where everyone is a decent human being. Whatever option you pick you’re in for a fight. I’ve never called out someone for casual racism and had them go ‘oh yeah my bad you’re right’ whether it’s in public or private.

And then there is the fact that you have to invest a portion of your own emotional wellbeing in the group over a period of time initially because very rarely do these people show their true colours straight off the bat. It comes in the form of casual comments, a off-hand remark in voice chat, a tumblr post their mate sent to them to laugh at that they post in the group. And everyone is laughing but you and you know that eventually it’s going to come down to slipping quietly out the back door or confronting them and both options suck.

Even thinking about joining any new groups is just draining because I have to weigh up whether or not I think it’s going to have garbage bag people in it, and what type of garbage they’re going to post and how I’m going to deal with it and if it’s worth it to my overall emotional wellbeing. As I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten less tolerant of people. And I want to join in in many spaces but I also want to do so with great people and it’s not like I can hand over a list of criteria to check off about their opinions before I head on over. I’ve got to do the legwork of being around a little while and getting to know people and it just saps me.

Idrk know why. I kinda want poeple to think im a cis boy online

we keep the femboi tho, cause FUCK YEAH

(and yet I still question if I'm trans often)