“To avoid melodrama, recognize that emotions run along a continuum, from mild to extreme. For each situation, know where your character is along that continuum and choose appropriate descriptors. Just as extreme emotions call for extreme indicators, temperate emotions should be expressed subtly. The indicators for intermediate emotions will lie somewhere in the middle.”

Sep 24 2020 by MEKISHANA PIERRE

Zayn Malik just dropped his first solo single in two years, and wow, it was certainly worth the wait. On Friday, the singer released "Better" alongside a laid-back music video featuring a shirtless Zayn with newly dyed red hair. The soothing R&B melody is grown and sexy, with lyrics about love and heartbreak, while showing off the former boy bander's smooth vocals.

The singer debuted his sophomore album, Icarus Falls, in December 2018, and he's kept a pretty low profile since, though he has gifted fans with a few collaborations, like the revamp of the Aladdin classic "A Whole New World" with Zhavia Ward, Shaed's "Trampoline" remix, and "Flames" with R3hab and Jungleboi.

Yet when asked to describe the attributes of ‘the ideal guy,’ those same boys appeared to be harking back to 1955. Dominance. Aggression. Rugged good looks. Sexual prowess. Stoicism. Athleticism. Wealth. It’s not that all of these qualities, properly channeled, are bad. But while a 2018 national survey found that young women believed there were many ways to be a girl—they could shine in math, sports, music, leadership (the big caveat being that they still felt valued primarily for their appearance)—young men described just one narrow route to successful masculinity.

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Feminism may have provided girls with a powerful alternative to conventional femininity, and a language with which to express the myriad problems-that-have-no-name, but there have been no credible equivalents for boys. Quite the contrary: The definition of masculinity seems to be in some respects contracting.

 How your brain makes articles go viral

Although it might be intuitive to expect people would think about themselves in deciding what to read personally and think about others in deciding what to share, the researchers found something else: Whether they were choosing to read for themselves or deciding what to recommend to others, the neural data suggest that people think about both themselves and others.

In fact, the researchers report in an upcoming issue of Psychological Science, that thinking about what to share brought out the highest levels of activity in both of these neural systems.

"When you're thinking about what to read yourself and about what to share, both are inherently social, and when you're thinking socially, you're often thinking about yourself and your relationships to others," says Baek. "Your self-concept and understanding of the social world are intertwined."