if you're not white and you have ambitions of moving up in the world and changing your lifestyle I would genuinely recommend that you focus on making connections with successful members of your own community before trying to enter others . This is especially true if you have no experience with diverse groups of people and you haven't acclimated to cultures different from yours.
It is insane to genuinely think that an african american working class woman who has never interacted with anyone but other african american working class people can immediately make her way into circles filled with rich white people who have been surrounded by people exactly like them their entire lives with no culture shock on either side. this also doesn't just apply to black people but any kind of minority.
If you're black and see yourself in a different kind of life you should be focused on making friends with the "oak bluffs every summer, mom is an AKA and she dragged me to jack and jill every chance she got" types first before you go trying to be an old money trophy wife or whatever.
its different when you have to cultural capital, or you grew up in the suburbs or in more diverse environments or you're naturally someone who doesn't embody certain stereotypes but if that's not you work on working your way up within your own culture and community, thats how it works.
