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Having her choose for you? Her placing her hand on your back or pulling you closer in crowded areas? Fixing your hair when you didnt know it was messy? Holding your hand to guide you through crowds? Telling you when you should eat/go to bed?

Thank you for sending this ask hon. So I cannot and will not speak for all mollis, as we're no monolith, I can only speak of my thoughts.

In a similar vein, I worry that my body isn't feminine enough/ will never be pretty enough to be considered beautiful and I'll only every be seen as masc and handsome.

I do think that any Virago woman is handsome and while apearance is subjective, it has more to do with your security and confidence in yourself and how you carry yourself.

I bet you feel very masculine on the inside and it’s a vital party of you interpersonal identity and gender expression, changing how one is perceived is no easy task, it will have its challenges

If you do want a change with your outward expression I'd say, find and wear clothes and accessories that you love, maybe a cologne, get a haircut you like, though hair length doesn't define your masculinity. Think about what YOU want. I'd say do what YOU want. Do what makes YOU happy and what makes YOU feel comfortable. Everyone else's opinions don't matter tbh.

You can see how others are styling themselves and you can ask for support and advice on how to present more masc. Try and find people that have your body type/similar apearance and lean into some of those aspects.

You Are Attractive: Remember that someone will find you handsome because of your Virago identity, not despite it; you are not obligated to be "pretty"

I do wish I could speak to you a bit more directly because I'm sure there's more to discuss if I got to know you a bit more, but this is what I could just think of off the top of my head dear.

Currently reading about queering heterosexuality on Wikipedia, and would like y'all's thoughts on the sections,sources, and history, and also ways to improve the communication of our community to the greater public and combat infighting. If you have links to other sources I ask that you reblog and include them.