The goal is not to keep skimming over the rough feelings and inner chaos. The goal is to be in those feelings and experience the chaos so that I can get through it.
I don't have to completely stop to feel them, either. I can feel the sad while I am brushing my teeth. I can be gently scared while I shower.
And having those feelings while doing simple self care tasks helps hold the nurturing attitude I want to have towards myself as I'm feeling them.











